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24 May 2022

My husband is having an affair and he wants me to keep it a secret- should I respect his wishes?

Cate Campbell says: The crucial issue here seems less concerned with whether you should spill the beans about your husband’s affair and so much more about how you are coping. ...
9 May 2022

How can I tell my boss I have feelings for him before I leave the country?

Karen Mooney says: Your boss sounds like a lovely, kind, caring man with very professional work ethics. You say he is older than you, if he is very much older ...
6 May 2022

How can I get my kids into sport and away from screens?

Dr Sophie Kent says: Physical activity has many important benefits for children's physical health and mental wellbeing. However, despite many children and families having high levels of knowledge about the ...
1 May 2022

My boyfriend prioritised his family over me- was he right to after the day I'd had?

Relationship expert Jessica Leoni says: “You don’t provide a great deal of background so it is hard for me to make a proper judgement but, based on the scant details ...
30 April 2022

My partner is an extrovert and I am an introvert- how can I be more like him?

Relationship expert Jessica Leoni says: “I do really feel for you and admire the way you are addressing your problems and bravely trying to come out of your shell and ...
29 April 2022

Why won't he leave his girlfriend for me after all we have been through?

Relationship expert Jessica Leoni says: “I think there are two very simple answers to the questions you pose at the end of your dilemma: yes and yes. Yes, you are ...

28 April 2022

My partner won't commit to a job- should I leave if I want to be financially secure?

Relationship expert Jessica Leoni says: “You sound like you are a really good woman and your partner is very lucky to have you. But I do think you are right ...
25 April 2022

My husband and I live separate lives, should we stay together?

Psychotherapist Noel McDermott says: “Flogging a dead horse never works and nor does building a life with someone who is this much the opposite of you.  It’s important to note ...

18 June 2021

I'm no longer attracted to my partner of 19 years, should I leave him?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “Sex is the glue that keeps most marriages together and it is impossible to overlook its importance to your future happiness. I do ...
17 June 2021

Can you be in love with two people at the same time?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “Take it from me, most marriages are imperfect but basically good. You take the rough with the smooth and you ride out those ...
16 June 2021

Is his relationship with his ex inappropriate?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “I really don’t think you need any advice from me. You have done exactly the right thing in dumping him and you have ...
15 June 2021

I need to know if he wants more from me- am I being selfish?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “This is probably not what you want to hear but the thing you need to do more than anything at present is be ...
24 May 2021

What he wanted wasn't good for my mental health- was I right to leave?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “Wow - what a mess!" "Let’s start with your ex-partner. You were together for almost 3 years which is a long time. I ...
23 May 2021

My granddad is dying- why hasn't my boyfriend been more supportive?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “I think you need to view these recent difficulties in a wider context. This is not a new relationship: you have been with ...
22 May 2021

My partner is allergic to my cats- any advice on how we can see more of each other?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “This is a tricky one. I was allergic to cats when I was younger and had a similar reaction to them as your ...
21 May 2021

How can I still love the man I met online knowing what I do now?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “I’m very sorry to hear about your problems. The fairly obvious solution here is to forget about this man who clearly is a ...

23 December 2020

How can I trust my girlfriend after what I read on her phone?

Relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “In answer to your question at the end: get the hell out. This woman has already messed you around countless times and will continue to ...
22 December 2020

How can I accept this change in our family dynamic after 42 years?

Relationship expert Jessican Leoni said: “I really feel for you and can totally understand why you are not as excited by this huge development in your family as everyone else. ...
11 December 2020

Someone in my husband's family really hates me- any advice?

Relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “I would love to know more about the background to this row and why this resentment from your sister-in-law has built up so much that ...
10 December 2020

I have made sacrifices, why won't my husband do the same?

Relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “This is a really tough one. I think there is very little chance of you persuading your husband, at this stage in his life and ...
9 December 2020

It's been ten years since we last spoke- why now?

Relationship expert Jessican Leoni said: “You need to steer well clear of this guy - he has trouble written all over him. I am surprised that you have contacted him ...
8 December 2020

My girlfriend only wants one thing from our relationship- should I settle or push for more?

Relationship expert Jessican Leoni said: “My answer will be dictated a lot by your ages and the circumstances of your lives, and sadly you don’t give those details. If you ...
6 December 2020

Does the fault lie with me or him?

Firstly, don’t beat yourself up over this and please don’t over think the situation. Naturally you’re upset and feel used, especially now he has ended the relationship saying he felt ...
2 December 2020

I've thought about it for eight years, should I do something about it?

Relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “I think it is inevitable that you are going to sleep with this other guy. If not him, then someone else in the not too ...