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23 December 2020

How can I trust my girlfriend after what I read on her phone?

Relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “In answer to your question at the end: get the hell out. This woman has already messed you around countless times and will continue to ...
22 December 2020

How can I accept this change in our family dynamic after 42 years?

Relationship expert Jessican Leoni said: “I really feel for you and can totally understand why you are not as excited by this huge development in your family as everyone else. ...
11 December 2020

Someone in my husband's family really hates me- any advice?

Relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “I would love to know more about the background to this row and why this resentment from your sister-in-law has built up so much that ...
10 December 2020

I have made sacrifices, why won't my husband do the same?

Relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “This is a really tough one. I think there is very little chance of you persuading your husband, at this stage in his life and ...
9 December 2020

It's been ten years since we last spoke- why now?

Relationship expert Jessican Leoni said: “You need to steer well clear of this guy - he has trouble written all over him. I am surprised that you have contacted him ...
8 December 2020

My girlfriend only wants one thing from our relationship- should I settle or push for more?

Relationship expert Jessican Leoni said: “My answer will be dictated a lot by your ages and the circumstances of your lives, and sadly you don’t give those details. If you ...
6 December 2020

Does the fault lie with me or him?

Firstly, don’t beat yourself up over this and please don’t over think the situation. Naturally you’re upset and feel used, especially now he has ended the relationship saying he felt ...
2 December 2020

I've thought about it for eight years, should I do something about it?

Relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “I think it is inevitable that you are going to sleep with this other guy. If not him, then someone else in the not too ...
1 December 2020

How can I get over what I found in my boyfriend's emails?

Relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “I have every sympathy with your boyfriend here. It sounds to me that he has handled this situation brilliantly and is worthy of your trust. ...
30 November 2020

My boyfriend's behaviour is dangerous, what can I do?

Relationship expert Jessican Leoni said: “I think the most important line in your letter is the first one: ‘I love my boyfriend.’ The second most important line comes shortly after ...
23 November 2020

Is my boyfriend addicted or is he avoiding me?

I’m so sorry to hear of your dilemma it must be very difficult for you, especially as you have a young child together. If, as you say your partner is ...

23 November 2020

Am I being unreasonable to ask for this one thing for my baby?

Relationship expert Jessican Leoni said: “I can see both sides of this argument. You are approaching the most momentous time of your life - you are perfectly entitled to bring ...
14 November 2020

How can I distract myself from the situation me and my boyfriend are in?

You are fearing loneliness.  There’s the loneliness of missing a loved one due to distance.  Then there’s the loneliness of feeling alone because we have no one to call close, or, the ...
12 November 2020

How can I get over THAT time in my life?

Sex and relationship expert Jessican Leoni said: “I would love to know how long ago this incident occurred. I am hoping it was fairly recent - in the last couple ...

11 November 2020

Will I be judged by people for feeling this way?

Sex and relationship expert Jessican Leoni said: “I am sorry if I sound overly negative but this guys sounds like a total nightmare and you should forget any thoughts about ...
10 November 2020

Will people think I'm strange for never having done this?

Sex and relationship expert Jessican Leoni said: “First of all, it is important to stress that you are not ‘strange’ and there is nothing unusual in your predicament. There are ...
3 November 2020

Am I right to feel annoyed after what my brother in law has done?

Noel McDermott says: “Without doubt you have the right to be upset, but I will advise you not to let the upset live rent free in your head for too long! ...
28 October 2020

Should I ask my husband to get a DNA test?

Mig Bennett says: You don’t say how your husband feels about the unexpected contact from his daughter, but it reads as very unsettling for you. Our ‘secure attachment bond’ of ...
27 October 2020

Does he have hidden feelings for me?

Rachael Lloyd, relationship expert from eHarmony says: Hi there, Beware of intermittent flattery. This guy who is already in a relationship has you exactly where he wants you. He can ...

14 October 2020

Why am I so upset about what I found in the letter?

Relationship expert at eHarmony Rachael Lloyd says: Hi there, It sounds like you are in a lot of pain around your husband’s relationship with this woman, and have yet to ...
13 October 2020

I'm torn between two men, who should I choose?

Rachael Lloyd, Relationship expert at eHarmony says: I could write you the standard response to this kind of email, the one where I get to stay ‘stay away from married ...
12 October 2020

Why won't he meet up with me after a month of talking?

Psychotherapist Noel McDermott comments: “Online dating is our norm and has been for some time now but especially so in the current climate. It’s helping a lot of people but we ...
11 October 2020

My parents don't like my partner-any advice?

Relationship expert Jessican Leoni said: “This Covid crisis is a nightmare for all of us. It is not just the profound restrictions on our movements that is making life so ...
10 October 2020

Should I sacrifice my own happiness or stay in this relationship?

Relationship expert Jessican Leoni said: “Poor you - I really for you and am frankly surprised and disappointed that embarking on this new relationship has sparked such hostility from those ...