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16 July 2019

My partner's foot fetish is out of control, what can I do?

Jessica Leoni, sex and relationship expert, said: "Foot fetishes are surprisingly common. It is the sixth most common fetish in the UK (filming each other having sex was the most ...
14 July 2019

My partner of 10 years has been secretly texting his ex- what should I do?

Hello Anonymous, Thank you for getting in touch with the Female First Agony Aunts. The first thing we would ask is if it’s out of character for your husband to ...
14 July 2019

My ex has naked pics of me- should I be worried?

Hi Caitlyn, There is speculation this month in the media that posting explicit pictures of your ex might become illegal in the UK; it already is in other countries. With this ...
14 July 2019

Why does my partner have a picture of a naked woman on his phone?

Hi Anonymous, thanks for getting in touch.  If you are planning to move in together then you need to know that you can trust him. If you have addressed this ...
14 July 2019

My girlfriend sent naked pictures to another man- is this cheating?

Hi Anonymous, thanks for getting in touch. All couples have their own definition of what constitutes as cheating and what crosses the line. If you feel uncomfortable that she has ...
14 July 2019

My boyfriend has naked pictures of his ex on his computer, am I allowed to be upset?

Hello Anonymous, thanks for getting in touch.  It must have been alarming to find naked pictures of a woman on your partner's computer but it sounds like you felt an ...
14 July 2019

My girlfriend wants to do nude stripping

If you really like this woman then you shouldn’t let her job stand in the way. It is difficult to get your head around, but if she is beautiful she ...
27 July 2018

Is he using me for sex?

Our Resident Real Fairy Godmother Michelle Zelli says: Dear Milada, I am sorry to hear you’re caught up in the craziness and pain of this common romantic conundrum, one I work ...
20 July 2018

Is he cheating on me?

Our Resident Real Fairy Godmother Michelle Zelli says: Dear Laura Jane, I wish I could reassure you but am sorry to say there’s every chance you are being Gaslighted. The change ...
13 July 2018

How can I be a good friend after she ditched me for a guy?

Our Resident Real Fairy Godmother Michelle Zelli says: Dear Hannah, It’s hurtful when a friend distances for another but it’s also an opportunity to review your own values around friendships and ...
6 July 2018

Where's the best place to meet my partner's parents for the first time?

Our Resident Real Fairy Godmother Michelle Zelli says: Dear Shelly, It’s not unusual for ‘meet your parents’ arrangements to cause angst. Perhaps your boyfriend is setting up expectations of being judged ...
29 June 2018

How can I get my son to come home after our disagreement?

Our Resident Real Fairy Godmother Michelle Zelli says: Dear Lydia, This is a painful and difficult situation, but you are right to protect the atmosphere in your own home. Of course ...
22 June 2018

How can I get over my best friend lying to me?

Our Resident Real Fairy Godmother Michelle Zelli says: Oh darling, this could be the most perfect gift you have ever received! The story is horrible, disloyalty and dishonesty every which way ...
20 June 2018

He's a geek- but I like him- what should I do?

Maybe instead of asking him out, you should get to know him as friends. You might then, be able to tell what he thinks of you, and to have some ...

13 June 2018

Why am I still single?

Our Resident Real Fairy Godmother Michelle Zelli says: Dear John, It’s a quandary but appears that you would tick lots of boxes from willing and eager women out on the dating ...
7 June 2018

Why is my friend repulsed by the notion of sex?

Our Resident Real Fairy Godmother Michelle Zelli says: Oh my goodness, you’re a good friend. It sounds as though your pal has a chronic case of Reactive Attachment Disorder. He is ...
29 May 2018

Why is my husband messaging an old crush?

Our Resident Real Fairy Godmother Michelle Zelli says: Dear Sonya I am sorry to hear you suffering from this common modern dilemma.So many women find themselves in this mind-curdling situation, where ...
24 May 2018

Why Am I So Bothered About What My Partner Thinks Of My Nose?

When he told you about it- was he apologetic? He may have gone along with the banter to fit in with his friend's opinions rather than forming ones of his ...
24 May 2018

Why Do I No Longer Enjoy The Company Of My Friends?

Hi Sofe, Some friendships are built to last a lifetime and others are not. Perhaps yours is the latter. Consider why you became friends in the first place as this ...
22 May 2018

Should I Serenade Him With My Music?

Hi Jay, If you talked about the singing thing before he said he didn’t want it to go any further, then perhaps this would not bring him back to you. It ...
22 May 2018

I've Got A Talent For Making Music- What Should I Do About It?

Hi Damonte, I would suggest putting some of your work on You Tube. A lot of artists have been discovered this way- take Justin Bieber for example and look how successful ...
22 May 2018

Why Is My Boyfriend Messaging A Woman From Work?

Our Resident Real Fairy Godmother Michelle Zelli says: Oh Pippa, no wonder you’re feeling upset and hurt! Your situation isn’t as straightforward as it might at first appear and it would be ...
15 May 2018

I've Recently Ended An 11 Year Relationship- Where Can I Meet New Women?

Our Resident Real Fairy Godmother Michelle Zelli answers one of our reader dilemmas: Dear Natalie, It can be a shock to the system when we step into the big wide dating ...
10 May 2018

Why Won't My Partner Help Me With The Cleaning?

Hi Paige, It's possible that if he grew up in a house where his mum or sister cleaned that he expects the same from you. If you would like it ...