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27 July 2018

Is he using me for sex?

Our Resident Real Fairy Godmother Michelle Zelli says: Dear Milada, I am sorry to hear you’re caught up in the craziness and pain of this common romantic conundrum, one I work ...
20 July 2018

Is he cheating on me?

Our Resident Real Fairy Godmother Michelle Zelli says: Dear Laura Jane, I wish I could reassure you but am sorry to say there’s every chance you are being Gaslighted. The change ...
13 July 2018

How can I be a good friend after she ditched me for a guy?

Our Resident Real Fairy Godmother Michelle Zelli says: Dear Hannah, It’s hurtful when a friend distances for another but it’s also an opportunity to review your own values around friendships and ...
6 July 2018

Where's the best place to meet my partner's parents for the first time?

Our Resident Real Fairy Godmother Michelle Zelli says: Dear Shelly, It’s not unusual for ‘meet your parents’ arrangements to cause angst. Perhaps your boyfriend is setting up expectations of being judged ...
29 June 2018

How can I get my son to come home after our disagreement?

Our Resident Real Fairy Godmother Michelle Zelli says: Dear Lydia, This is a painful and difficult situation, but you are right to protect the atmosphere in your own home. Of course ...
22 June 2018

How can I get over my best friend lying to me?

Our Resident Real Fairy Godmother Michelle Zelli says: Oh darling, this could be the most perfect gift you have ever received! The story is horrible, disloyalty and dishonesty every which way ...
20 June 2018

He's a geek- but I like him- what should I do?

Maybe instead of asking him out, you should get to know him as friends. You might then, be able to tell what he thinks of you, and to have some ...

13 June 2018

Why Am I Still Single?

Our Resident Real Fairy Godmother Michelle Zelli says: Dear John, It’s a quandary but appears that you would tick lots of boxes from willing and eager women out on the dating ...
7 June 2018

Why Is My Friend Repulsed By The Notion Of Sex?

Our Resident Real Fairy Godmother Michelle Zelli says: Oh my goodness, you’re a good friend. It sounds as though your pal has a chronic case of Reactive Attachment Disorder. He is ...
29 May 2018

Why Is My Husband Messaging An Old Crush?

Our Resident Real Fairy Godmother Michelle Zelli says: Dear Sonya I am sorry to hear you suffering from this common modern dilemma.So many women find themselves in this mind-curdling situation, where ...
24 May 2018

Why Am I So Bothered About What My Partner Thinks Of My Nose?

When he told you about it- was he apologetic? He may have gone along with the banter to fit in with his friend's opinions rather than forming ones of his ...
24 May 2018

Why Do I No Longer Enjoy The Company Of My Friends?

Hi Sofe, Some friendships are built to last a lifetime and others are not. Perhaps yours is the latter. Consider why you became friends in the first place as this ...
22 May 2018

Should I Serenade Him With My Music?

Hi Jay, If you talked about the singing thing before he said he didn’t want it to go any further, then perhaps this would not bring him back to you. It ...
22 May 2018

I've Got A Talent For Making Music- What Should I Do About It?

Hi Damonte, I would suggest putting some of your work on You Tube. A lot of artists have been discovered this way- take Justin Bieber for example and look how successful ...
22 May 2018

Why Is My Boyfriend Messaging A Woman From Work?

Our Resident Real Fairy Godmother Michelle Zelli says: Oh Pippa, no wonder you’re feeling upset and hurt! Your situation isn’t as straightforward as it might at first appear and it would be ...
15 May 2018

I've Recently Ended An 11 Year Relationship- Where Can I Meet New Women?

Our Resident Real Fairy Godmother Michelle Zelli answers one of our reader dilemmas: Dear Natalie, It can be a shock to the system when we step into the big wide dating ...
10 May 2018

Why Won't My Partner Help Me With The Cleaning?

Hi Paige, It's possible that if he grew up in a house where his mum or sister cleaned that he expects the same from you. If you would like it ...
9 May 2018

Why Am I Stuck Working Night Shifts?

Hi Kate, You legally have to give your employee a reference if they leave. It might be short and sweet but she has to give you a reference. If this does ...
4 May 2018

She Needs Space-How Long Should I Leave It Until I Approach?

Hi Rich, Perhaps once you decide to meet up with her you could explain why you have been so preoccupied. Perhaps she thought that this is what it would be like ...
4 May 2018

How Can I Give Him The Space He Needs Without Being A Doormat?

Hi Harriet, Even if he wants to be with you- leaving his wife will still come as a huge adjustment as his life is about to change dramatically so he ...
4 May 2018

Why Has He Asked For Space While I'm Sick?

Hi Margaret, Your partner should be with you in sickness and in health, whether you have exchanged vows or not. It is one of the unwritten rules of relationships; he should ...
23 April 2018

He Said He Dad Doubts About Our Relationship- Should I Give Him A Second Chance?

Hi Vet Student, It sounds like being in a long distance relationship has had its ups and downs for you both, especially while you've not been able to travel to ...
28 March 2018

Why Don't We Have Sex Anymore?

Hi Sage, If your sex drive is the same as it always was, it sounds like the answer might lie with your partner. How are you currently broaching the subject? ...
10 August 2017

Why Is My Partner So Lazy?

Hi Sarah, Moving in with someone can bring up some teething problems at first, however if it's fairly new, then you might be able to nip things in the bud ...