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11 August 2020

Am I failing my children?

Sex and relationship expert Jessican Leoni said: “You are being way too hard on yourself, which is understandable given your circumstances because you have an awful lot on your plate. ...
10 August 2020

Should I leave my career to make my partner happy?

Sex and relationship expert Jessican Leoni said: “You are facing a really tough dilemma and ultimately your final decision is going to be determined by your feelings for your boyfriend. ...
9 August 2020

Have I gone off my partner completely or is it normal to feel this way after pregnancy?

Let’s start with your questions. Yes. The demise of a couple’s sexual relationship often starts with the first child’s arrival. Parenthood is uncharted territory; new parents need security and stability ...

8 August 2020

Is it a good idea to have a casual relationship with my friend?

Martina Mercer says: Hi there, having a friend with benefits can be a very liberating experience, as long as, as you have done, both parties understand the boundaries and agree ...
6 August 2020

How can I stop my heart from being broken again?

Noel McDermott says: “The first thing I would say is trust yourself. You clearly feel something is wrong and needs to be discussed fully. You are correct, here’s a little ...
5 August 2020

How can I heal after what I found on my boyfriend's phone?

Nadia Deen says: Dear Reader, Finding out your partner has betrayed you by asking strangers for nudes, is upsetting and heartbreaking.  It breaks your trust in that person and encourages ...
4 August 2020

I've been hurt in the past, how can I learn to trust someone again?

Sex and relationship expert Jessican Leoni said: “You have provided very few details so it is difficult for me to be too firm in my judgements. My gut instinct is ...
3 August 2020

How can I get my partner's ex to be civil to me?

Sex and relationship expert Jessican Leoni said: “I really feel for you because you sound like you are getting a raw deal from your partner’s ex. She is behaving selfishly ...
2 August 2020

My boyfriend doesn't like the way I dress- any advice?

Sex and relationship expert Jessican Leoni said: “To answer your question bluntly: get the hell out. You are 25 and really shouldn’t be wasting any more time on a man ...
1 August 2020

How do I break away from the most intense friendship I've ever experienced?

Sex and relationship expert Jessican Leoni said: “I am loathe to disagree with the advice from your mother, who sounds like a lovely woman and is right in many ways ...
30 July 2020

Why is my partner spending so much time at his mother's house?

Kate Nicolle says: This sounds like a difficult time for you all, your partner is trying to support his mother at a time when she is clearly distressed and relying ...
29 July 2020

Should I forget about the married woman I have met online?

Hi Mike, If you love her then you could wait, however 5 years is a long time to wait for someone and what if she changes her mind? If she is ...
28 July 2020

I want another child but my husband doesn't- any advice?

Martina Mercer says: Hi there, you don’t mention what ages your children are? If they still wake during the night and demand a lot of attention (under 5) then it ...
26 July 2020

I don't agree with my friend texting another man behind her fiance's back- any advice?

Sex and relationship expert Jessican Leoni said: “Your friend does sound like a bit of a handful. Getting married is a stressful business and lots of people who have doubts ...
25 July 2020

Why am I jealous of my partner's friendship with our roommate?

Sex and relationship expert Jessican Leoni said: “I think you need to have an honest conversation with your partner and find out what he really thinks about this girl. Is ...
24 July 2020

Why do I still think about my ex every day?

Sex and relationship expert Jessican Leoni said: “First of all, well done for facing up for your past mistakes and realising that you need to make amends for your past ...
23 July 2020

Why is my daughter so defensive about her noisy behaviour?

Sex and relationship expert Jessican Leoni said: “You are facing the kind of annoying disruption that pretty much every parent with a lively 22-year-old daughter faces. Yes, she is being ...
22 July 2020

Why is sex always on his terms?

Jo Howarth says: Well, you're absolutely correct that the whole thing is on his terms. Control anyone? He is controlling what happens between the two of you and unless you ...
21 July 2020

Do I tell my new boss about my health and upcoming doctors appointments?

Noel McDermott says: “You bring up some interesting issues around appropriate framing, transference and support. You are going through a very frightening time and I would guess feeling quite young, ...
20 July 2020

My partner has been sexting other women, will he ever realise what he has with me?

The Good Enough Coach Natalie Trice says: I am so sorry that you are having to deal with this situation and it isn't a surprise that you are feeling hurt and ...
19 July 2020

My step-father has terminal lung cancer- why don't I feel more emotional?

“What a challenging childhood you had and I empathise with how difficult it must have been as a child to feel unwanted. I also see you tried to have a ...
18 July 2020

My parents hate my partner- any advice?

Jessica Leoni, sex and relationship expert, said: “It would be good to have a few more details and more of an explanation about why your parents have such a low ...
17 July 2020

Do you think I'm pregnant?

Jessica Leoni, sex and relationship expert, said: “I really don’t know for sure and the only way to properly resolve this issue is to take a pregnacy test. You can ...
16 July 2020

My two best friends have fallen out, how do I deal with this?

Jessica Leoni, sex and relationship expert, said: “This is a tricky one because you have given me so few details and I don’t know what has caused your friends to ...