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7 June 2024

Why is my partner keeping me a secret from his friends?

“You are right to be worried and his obsession  (and I don’t think that is too strong a word) with compartmentalising his life could still destroy the love you have ...

10 May 2024

My overseas friend has a new girlfriend

Dear IDK, It’s clear to see you and your exchange student friend have a very caring and close friendship. Friends can often develop feelings but when those feelings aren’t reciprocated ...

25 April 2024

Why do I dream about bad things after someone has died?

Hi Delesia, Dreams are part of the grieving process. If it is someone close who has died or someone not so close, you may feel grief in varying amounts. Perhaps you ...

20 April 2024

Why won't he consult me before deciding to get the snip?

Hi Blob, This is a very important thing to compromise over if it’s what you want. You may ‘love each other to bits’; however communication and negotiation are also key factors in ...
15 April 2024

Why Is My Partner Texting Sex Workers?

Hi Anonymous, Although you say that the relationship seems perfect, there is usually some doubt in the partnership. This will cause us to act suspiciously. I’m assuming this is not ...

1 August 2022

Should I find a place of my own?

I can appreciate your ‘wits end’ position and your message gives the impression that you are frustrated, anxious and confused which could leave you feeling insecure. It makes me wonder, ...
29 June 2022

My mother in law doesn't care about my husband and calls me lazy- any advice?

The crucial issue which comes to mind here is boundaries. Putting clear boundaries in place when it comes to your mother in law will be the first step in managing ...

22 June 2022

How can I find the confidence to leave my job?

Psychotherapist Noel McDermott www.noelmcdermott.net says: “Don’t attack the problem head on approach it by looking at the various components that exist and breaking it down. There are 3 main areas that I ...

21 June 2022

My husband won't move closer to my family- should I leave him?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “I am used to getting some really tricky dilemmas in my job and this one is right up there as one of the ...
21 June 2022

How can I stop feeling like such a failure in life?

Relationship expert Jessica Leoni says: “I know I am stating the obvious but you have so much to be proud of and you are completely wrong to judge yourself as ...
21 June 2022

How can I get out of the black hole I am stuck in?

Relationship expert Jessica Leoni says: “You are clearly suffering from depression and what we need to establish is whether this is a temporary malaise or a more long-term, deep-seated problem. ...
9 June 2022

I pay for everything in our relationship because my wife won't find a job- is this fair?

Relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “Wow - what a mess. I can see why both you, your wife and your child aren’t happy in this situation and it is stressing you ...
8 June 2022

I don't have many friends anymore and I'm looking to increase my social circle- any advice?

Psychotherapist Noel McDermott www.noelmcdermott.net comments: “Great question and a sensible idea as a lot of guys lose their social network over time due to people moving on getting married for example.  ...
30 May 2022

My partner wants another child but I don't- what should I do?

Relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “I am totally with you on this one and feel you are going to have to tell him once and for all that a fourth ...
24 May 2022

My husband is having an affair and he wants me to keep it a secret- should I respect his wishes?

Cate Campbell says: The crucial issue here seems less concerned with whether you should spill the beans about your husband’s affair and so much more about how you are coping. ...
9 May 2022

How can I tell my boss I have feelings for him before I leave the country?

Karen Mooney says: Your boss sounds like a lovely, kind, caring man with very professional work ethics. You say he is older than you, if he is very much older ...
6 May 2022

How can I get my kids into sport and away from screens?

Dr Sophie Kent says: Physical activity has many important benefits for children's physical health and mental wellbeing. However, despite many children and families having high levels of knowledge about the ...
1 May 2022

My boyfriend prioritised his family over me- was he right to after the day I'd had?

Relationship expert Jessica Leoni says: “You don’t provide a great deal of background so it is hard for me to make a proper judgement but, based on the scant details ...
30 April 2022

My partner is an extrovert and I am an introvert- how can I be more like him?

Relationship expert Jessica Leoni says: “I do really feel for you and admire the way you are addressing your problems and bravely trying to come out of your shell and ...
29 April 2022

Why won't he leave his girlfriend for me after all we have been through?

Relationship expert Jessica Leoni says: “I think there are two very simple answers to the questions you pose at the end of your dilemma: yes and yes. Yes, you are ...
28 April 2022

My partner won't commit to a job- should I leave if I want to be financially secure?

Relationship expert Jessica Leoni says: “You sound like you are a really good woman and your partner is very lucky to have you. But I do think you are right ...
25 April 2022

My husband and I live separate lives, should we stay together?

Psychotherapist Noel McDermott says: “Flogging a dead horse never works and nor does building a life with someone who is this much the opposite of you.  It’s important to note ...

18 June 2021

I'm no longer attracted to my partner of 19 years, should I leave him?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “Sex is the glue that keeps most marriages together and it is impossible to overlook its importance to your future happiness. I do ...
17 June 2021

Can you be in love with two people at the same time?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “Take it from me, most marriages are imperfect but basically good. You take the rough with the smooth and you ride out those ...