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19 December 2019

I still love my ex but he has a girlfriend- any advice?

Clarissa Bloom says: It can be hard to see a former partner move on with their life and meet someone new, however this is the inevitable difficulty around a break ...
18 December 2019

I'm ready to experience my first relationship but what am I doing wrong?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “You sounds like a great catch! Don’t be too hard on yourself. We all have feelings of insecurity, particularly in our teenage years, ...
18 December 2019

I'm stuck in a love triangle- what should I do?

Clarissa Bloom says: Whether they are truly willing to leave their wife or whether it is just talk is not the main factor. The reality is you need to end ...
17 December 2019

I'm in a long distance relationship- how do I cope when she goes back home?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “I think the key word in your letter is ‘recently.’ This is a brand new relationship - you are both in the first ...
17 December 2019

My friend has bulimia but I'm not meant to have found out- how do I help her?

Clarissa Bloom says: It can be difficult when told something you're not supposed to know, but the most important thing is your actions and how you handle that information. You ...
16 December 2019

How can I tell my boyfriend that I only see him as a friend?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “You are going to have to make that break. Not splitting up with him because you are worried that you will ‘break his ...
16 December 2019

My daughter's husband regularly visits his ex- should I tell her how I feel about it?

Clarissa Bloom says: Meeting ex partners can always be a difficult situation, especially if they share a friendship base or work together. This is something that most relationships should discuss ...
15 December 2019

Should I leave my partner before or after Christmas?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “What a sad situation! I really feel for you and there is no easy way out of this. First of all, you have ...
15 December 2019

Someone at work makes me feel like I'm not good at my job- how do I handle this?

Rachael Lloyd at eharmony says: The truth about confidence is that it’s an inside job. You can wing it all you like, you can dress the part, but unless you ...
14 December 2019

My partner doesn't want children- should I stay with him in case he changes his mind?

Rachael Lloyd at eharmony says: Many years have passed since I was 18, but I clearly remember feeling older than my years at that stage in my life. It was ...
13 December 2019

Why am I drawn to one of my girlfriend's best friends?

Rachael Lloyd at eharmony says: Regarding your current relationship, this could be a case of a two-year itch. Perhaps you’ve reached a stage at which your relationship is leaning towards ...
12 December 2019

Should I cut my mother in law out of my life?

Jo Howarth says: I would start by sitting her down and putting your boundaries in place. Tell her exactly what you consider to be acceptable behaviour and that if she ...
11 December 2019

I find my partner's relationship with his sister odd- how can I help the situation?

Jo Howarth says: What does your other half say about it? Does he think it's odd or is that just how they are as a family? My instinct is that ...
10 December 2019

Should I tell my guy friend that I've started to see him differently?

Jo Howarth says: Talk to him. Please don't feel awkward and ashamed for realising the feelings you have for him. My husband is my best friend and has been since ...
9 December 2019

My husband's dad has been having an affair- how do we handle Christmas Day now?

Dear Anonymous, This does sound like an unexpectedly complex situation and it’s no wonder that emotions may be running high. The thing that you and your husband have  in common ...
9 December 2019

My husband came home with a hickey on his arm- should I be worried?

Jo Howarth says: Do you trust him? Do you believe him? At the end of the day that's all that matters. If you don't trust or believe him then why ...
8 December 2019

Why does my partner lie to his ex about our relationship?

Noel McDermott says: This is a tangled situation. First I would say that your partner cannot allow himself to be taken hostage by his wife in this way. No one ...
8 December 2019

How can I escape my controlling boyfriend?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “If I were in your shoes, I would get out of that destructive relationship as fast as I could. He sounds like a ...
7 December 2019

Should I tell my boyfriend that I lied to him?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “What a hornet’s nest. I really do feel for you but you are going to have to put the whole relationship on the ...
6 December 2019

I feel like my dad is leaving me behind- how can I get over this?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “What a heart-breaking situation. You sound like a lovely woman and really don’t deserve this upheaval after all you have been through. To ...
5 December 2019

Should I be worried that my boyfriend has his ex staying over for a few days?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “I think you have to give your new partner the benefit of the doubt and raise no objection to his ex staying. You ...
4 December 2019

Did I do the right thing not helping my friend with her money problems?

Jo Howarth: You made that decision for a reason. You made that decision because you felt it was the right one for you. And that is okay. I'm sure your ...
4 December 2019

Why is my husband so angry all the time?

If the subject matter is something that either upsets you or causes an argument on a regular basis, then it is a clear problem for your relationship. While it is ...
3 December 2019

He hasn't messaged me in three weeks- shall I get in touch?

Jo Howarth says: Look after you. Which of those options makes you feel good about yourself and which makes you feel rubbish? If messaging him feels like the right thing ...