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6 January 2020

How can I juggle family life, work and get our relationship back on track?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “What a complicated situation but it is one that I am sure you will be able to resolve. Hats off to you both ...
5 January 2020

My partner slept with his ex while drunk- should I forgive him?

Dear Anonymous, Thank you for your dilemma and it does certainly sound like you have all been through a lot emotionally recently, with quite major changes happening in such a ...
3 January 2020

My best friend is out of control- what more can I do for her?

Jo Howarth says: And at what point do you focus on your own life? Your friend sounds as if she has some serious learning to do, not just at university ...
2 January 2020

Why has my work friend not bothered with me while I've been off?

Noel McDermott says: It sounds like a difficult situation and to answer the question of should you say anything to her then I would counsel yes. You’re assuming they don’t ...
2 January 2020

How can I leave my partner without hurting him and the kids?

Jo Howarth says: You cannot take responsibility for anyone else's responses. You can only take responsibility for your own. If you are not happy in the relationship and you cannot ...
1 January 2020

Why is my boyfriend acting so badly to what he saw on my phone?

Jo Howarth says: First of all I am sending you love for such a difficult situation. You cannot make your boyfriend do or feel anything he is not comfortable doing ...
1 January 2020

Why is our relationship not the same as it used to be?

Noel McDermott says: I would suggest a relationship MOT to see if there is enough there to save, there are things such as global assessment of relationship functioning which will give you a numerical ...
31 December 2019

I don't feel quite right at university- any advice?

Jo Howarth says: Bless your heart. I want to ask you to take a slow, deep breath and a step back to start with. Take the pressure off yourself. If ...
31 December 2019

Is my girlfriend looking for a partner or a protector?

Carole Ann Rice says: This must be very frustrating for you because its not an equal relationship and some men do like to be a protector / rescuer if that’s ...
30 December 2019

Should I leave my controlling partner?

Carole Ann Rice Says: You have made a lot of sacrifices for him and taken on his family, with a cost to yourself because you live away from your own ...
30 December 2019

Am I underappreciated by my boyfriend?

Dear Anonymous, Thank you for your dilemma. Just from this initial bit of information it does appear to me that there may be a power imbalance in your current relationship. ...
29 December 2019

Should I tell my friends and family that I am back with my ex?

Carole Ann Rice says: This is your story and you get to write how it goes, you write the rules, the beginning and the end of this story. It may ...
29 December 2019

Why was I attracted to a woman when I've never been before?

Dear Anonymous, Thank you for your dilemma. Butterflies in the stomach are a really natural (and nice!) feeling when we like someone and this is because we are tapping into ...
28 December 2019

Why do I feel responsible for my parent's miserable life?

Carole Ann Rice says: You sound like a lovely a daughter and you are still really young, and likely too young to carry your parent’s burdens or sadness. It is ...
27 December 2019

Why am I always reaching out to my date first?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “You have given very scant details so it is difficult to get a full picture of what is going on.  But in the ...
27 December 2019

Why won't my wife be intimate with me anymore?

Dear anonymous, Thank you for your dilemma. It does sound as if there’s been quite a shift in your relationship since you have had your children, particularly your second child. ...
26 December 2019

How can I help my daughter with her depression?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “I really feel for you. Please be assured: you have done nothing wrong and it sounds like you are a wonderful mother to ...
26 December 2019

Why is my partner's family causing so many issues ahead of our wedding?

Rachael Lloyd at eharmony says: I’m so sorry to hear that during a time when you should be excitedly planning a wedding, other people seem hellbent on causing rifts. That ...
25 December 2019

Are my trust issues making me doubt my current relationship?

Rachael Lloyd at eharmony says: Firstly, I’m sorry to hear about the betrayal you suffered in your last relationship. Unless you’ve been cheated on, it’s hard to fully understand the shock ...
24 December 2019

I have feelings for my manager but I still love my boyfriend- any advice?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “I really feel for you because you are stuck in a love triangle which is largely not of your making. Let’s deal with ...
24 December 2019

Am I overthinking my friend's relationship?

Rachael Lloyd at eharmony says: This sounds like a confusing and intense situation which has ripple effects across a whole group of people, including yourself, your boyfriend and respective friends. My ...
23 December 2019

My boyfriend doesn't wants kids but I do- any advice?

Rachael Lloyd at eharmony says: One of the most challenging things about relationships is that you can be deeply in love with someone and yet face dealbreakers which prevent you going ...
23 December 2019

I miss my happy mum- what can I do to help her feel better?

Hi anonymous, It sounds as if you have witnessed and struggled with some complex family dynamics over the years and these can be hard to navigate when you feel that ...
22 December 2019

Does he truly care about me or is he protecting himself?

Sometimes if we have been hurt we can go into self-preservation mode to protect ourselves from being hurt again. Often in relationships we can see this back and forth when ...