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9 November 2019

My partner and my family don't get on- what should I do?

Clarissa Bloom says: This is an incredibly common issue, however being close to the partner, it is natural to be emotional in your reaction. Instead, you should take a step back ...
8 November 2019

Should I ask my girlfriend to move jobs after her affair?

"Let’s start with some reality  - not everyone who has been in ‘one’ relationship cheats, it sounds like you have a desire to forgive and move on even though you ...
7 November 2019

I feel I put everything into our relationship but get nothing back

Nichi Hodgson says: This certainly sounds like an account of a very one-sided relationship. You say that the fact your partner has a job means he isn't 'immature' but I'm ...

6 November 2019

I have fallen in love with my friend- should we continue as we are?

Nichi Hodgson says: From what you describe, it sounds as though during the course of a casual relationship you've developed deeper feelings for your friend, which is to be entirely ...
5 November 2019

I had an affair that I can't move on from- what can I do?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said:”As you say, this is an ‘impossible situation’. Your lover sounds like a total nightmare and though it is hard for you to just ...
4 November 2019

My in laws don't like me- what should I do?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said:”What a mess! You sound like you have very unhelpful in-laws and it is very disappointing that your husband is not more supportive of ...

3 November 2019

I'm stuck in a relationship I don't want to be in- what should I do?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “This does sound like a tricky situation and one that is going to need to be handled senstively. I am stating the obvious ...
2 November 2019

My boyfriend has depression- how can I help him?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “I really feel for you - what an awful situation. Clinical depression is such a desperate illness and it sounds like your boyfriend ...

1 November 2019

I'm finding looking after my mother suffocating- what should I do?

Michelle Zelli says: Oh my goodness, you are a rock that needs help and support! It’s time to sit down and have an honest heart to heart with your mum, ...
31 October 2019

Should I pressure my boyfriend to leave his family?

Michelle Zelli says: This is messy, his lack of honesty is causing you to feel guilty. You are understandably confusing his responsibility with your own and getting tangled up in ...

30 October 2019

My husband of twelve years has just left me- what should I do now?

Michelle Zelli Says: Focus on you! This is so tough, I am sorry to hear but you can’t force anyone to do anything and it sounds as though your husband ...
29 October 2019

Will he take me back now I've had therapy and understand myself more?

Michelle Zelli says: It sounds as though your ex is feeling the need for breathing space, to explore life on his own terms. When you meet up approach from this ...
28 October 2019

Is it acceptable that my husband read three books on holiday?

Michelle Zelli says: Escaping into a book is one of the most common ways to relax but can leave the partner feeling excluded and alone.  It’s a tricky one as ...
27 October 2019

I'm in love with my best friend- what should I do?

I’m wondering why you and your best friend both kept your feelings secret from each other until now. Was there uncertainty, fear of rejection, concern at the possibility of a ...
27 October 2019

Why does my mother in law contradict my parenting skills?

Hi CM, It can be difficult for mothers when another woman becomes the centre of their son’s attention. There is a special bond between mother and son and sometimes that can ...

24 October 2019

Why has he changed now we are both back from vacation?

Agony Aunt Sami Wunder writes; Hello lovely, I believe your feminine intuition is already guiding you in the right direction, but I will give you some reminders: 1) Going on a ...
23 October 2019

Why does my friend feel the need to tell me EVERYTHING about her love life?

Stop, someone call the TMI police! Your friend is dumping way too much information on you. While I’m happy to hear she enjoyed a stimulating sexual adventure, you don’t need ...
22 October 2019

I had an affair- but I still love my husband- what should I do?

Welcome to a classic romantic paradox. Getting the person you think you desire, and then realising they weren’t such a big catch after all. Don’t make the same mistake twice. ...
21 October 2019

Why does my partner do so much for his ex?

I have to say this is one of the most exhausting emails I’ve read in a while! You give so much detail and evidently so much energy to this man ...
20 October 2019

Why is my husband being so guarded about his social media activity?

From what you’ve shared, your husband is being controlling about who you can and can’t be friends with on social media. He is keeping a close eye on your contacts ...
17 October 2019

Why has my brother never introduced our family to his girlfriend?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “What a tricky situation! You are right to be concerned and I can imagine it is incredibly upsetting for your parents to be ...
16 October 2019

How can I encourage my ex to be more responsible for our daughter?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “First of all, let’s look at the positives. You say that your ex is a ‘really loving mum’ and that you have a ...
15 October 2019

Why does my husband spend so much time on Twitter?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “You are right to be worried. No woman wants to be playing second fiddle to their husband’s mobile phone. I am a Twitter ...
14 October 2019

Should we be friends with benefits?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “A friend with benefits is a friend with whom you have an occasional and casual sexual relationship. So you remain pals with him ...