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16 January 2020

I think the guy I slept with gave me an STD, what should I do?

Dear Anonymous, Thank you for being so honest about I your situation. There’s a couple of things that I think are important to address here. Firstly, please do make sure ...
15 January 2020

Why did he tell me about another woman?

Dear Anonymous, Thank you for writing in. It sounds as if you have developed feelings for this guy, but the confusion is coming from not knowing where you stand and ...
12 January 2020

I only get to see my boyfriend on his terms- is this right?

If your relationship is truly something worth fighting for then my darling, you really must not worry and just go with it. You have to remember, everything is temporary! In ...
11 January 2020

I'm sure the feels the same about me as I do him- any advice?

Hi Anonymous, This feels like an emotionally challenging situation and I feel your sense of loss. I am not sure what the circumstances were and how your communication ended and ...
10 January 2020

My friend is now dating my ex but why has she fallen out with me over it?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “I really feel for you - what a sad situation. It seems so wrong that you are being punished not just by your ...
9 January 2020

Should I forgive my sister for what she's done?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “It is hard to give a definitive answer with such scant details because I do not know how your sister hurt you when ...
8 January 2020

I have feelings for two people who both like my best friend- any advice?

Noel McDermott says: Mutual respect is crucial in any relationship… whether it be a sexual friends with benefits or a committed monogamy. In terms of intimate love relationships this means ...
7 January 2020

Should we hold off trying for a baby now my sister is pregnant?

Hi Anonymous, Thank you for being so open with your thoughts and feelings. Family dynamics can be complicated, especially when they involve big life events, but I would urge you ...
6 January 2020

How can I juggle family life, work and get our relationship back on track?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “What a complicated situation but it is one that I am sure you will be able to resolve. Hats off to you both ...
5 January 2020

My partner slept with his ex while drunk- should I forgive him?

Dear Anonymous, Thank you for your dilemma and it does certainly sound like you have all been through a lot emotionally recently, with quite major changes happening in such a ...
3 January 2020

My best friend is out of control- what more can I do for her?

Jo Howarth says: And at what point do you focus on your own life? Your friend sounds as if she has some serious learning to do, not just at university ...
2 January 2020

Why has my work friend not bothered with me while I've been off?

Noel McDermott says: It sounds like a difficult situation and to answer the question of should you say anything to her then I would counsel yes. You’re assuming they don’t ...
2 January 2020

How can I leave my partner without hurting him and the kids?

Jo Howarth says: You cannot take responsibility for anyone else's responses. You can only take responsibility for your own. If you are not happy in the relationship and you cannot ...
1 January 2020

Why is my boyfriend acting so badly to what he saw on my phone?

Jo Howarth says: First of all I am sending you love for such a difficult situation. You cannot make your boyfriend do or feel anything he is not comfortable doing ...
1 January 2020

Why is our relationship not the same as it used to be?

Noel McDermott says: I would suggest a relationship MOT to see if there is enough there to save, there are things such as global assessment of relationship functioning which will give you a numerical ...
31 December 2019

I don't feel quite right at university- any advice?

Jo Howarth says: Bless your heart. I want to ask you to take a slow, deep breath and a step back to start with. Take the pressure off yourself. If ...
31 December 2019

Is my girlfriend looking for a partner or a protector?

Carole Ann Rice says: This must be very frustrating for you because its not an equal relationship and some men do like to be a protector / rescuer if that’s ...
30 December 2019

Should I leave my controlling partner?

Carole Ann Rice Says: You have made a lot of sacrifices for him and taken on his family, with a cost to yourself because you live away from your own ...
30 December 2019

Am I underappreciated by my boyfriend?

Dear Anonymous, Thank you for your dilemma. Just from this initial bit of information it does appear to me that there may be a power imbalance in your current relationship. ...
29 December 2019

Should I tell my friends and family that I am back with my ex?

Carole Ann Rice says: This is your story and you get to write how it goes, you write the rules, the beginning and the end of this story. It may ...
29 December 2019

Why was I attracted to a woman when I've never been before?

Dear Anonymous, Thank you for your dilemma. Butterflies in the stomach are a really natural (and nice!) feeling when we like someone and this is because we are tapping into ...
28 December 2019

Why do I feel responsible for my parent's miserable life?

Carole Ann Rice says: You sound like a lovely a daughter and you are still really young, and likely too young to carry your parent’s burdens or sadness. It is ...
27 December 2019

Why am I always reaching out to my date first?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “You have given very scant details so it is difficult to get a full picture of what is going on.  But in the ...
27 December 2019

Why won't my wife be intimate with me anymore?

Dear anonymous, Thank you for your dilemma. It does sound as if there’s been quite a shift in your relationship since you have had your children, particularly your second child. ...