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22 February 2020

He told me to move on- any advice?

Rachael Lloyd from eHarmony says:  Hi there, Your experience sounds very challenging. You spent five months in a relationship with someone, and even though it was a long-distance involvement, I’m ...
21 February 2020

Should I pursue a relationship with someone who is emotionally unavailable?

Rachael Lloyd at eharmony says: Hi there, This sounds like a very challenging situation and I’m sorry you’re suffering. I think in this instance, it might be an idea to separate ...
20 February 2020

I’m really scared he doesn’t feel the same- what should I do?

Jo Howarth says: The only way to find out if he feels the same is to ask him. You are second guessing a lot of what is going on instead of ...
19 February 2020

My sister never calls me- should I just leave her alone?

Jo Howarth says: You cannot control anyone else’s behaviour. It’s as simple as that. There could be a million and one reasons why your sister doesn’t call you, not all ...
18 February 2020

My husband works away a lot and I feel like I don't know him anymore- any advice?

Jo Howarth says: The question you need to ask yourself is do you still want to be with him? Do you still love him? If so then the situation is ...
17 February 2020

I'm pregnant and due on my sister's wedding day- what should I do?

Jo Howarth says: In my experience not many babies arrive on their exact due date. I’m assuming that you’re worried yours will and that it will upstage your sister’s day or ...
16 February 2020

I fancy my boyfriend's best mate- am I just bored?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “It would be good to know a little more context in this situation. How long have you been with your boyfriend? And are ...
15 February 2020

My partner is so eager to please it's pushing me away- what can I do?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “I do have some sympathy with your partner. He clearly loves you a lot and is doing everything he can to make the ...
14 February 2020

Does my ex mean it when he says he doesn't want anything to do with me?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: ”Sorry to be the bearer of bad news but it does sound like you ex wants out. He is probably doing you a ...
13 February 2020

Should I give up on guy one for guy two?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “This is a tricky one. You will probably expect me to say, dump guy number 1 and devote all your energies to guy ...
12 February 2020

My stepson does nothing- how can I get my wife to understand that he can't go on like this?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “This a tricky one and is going to have to be handled with extreme care. Any sensible person would review the situation and ...
9 February 2020

My partner of 15 years has told his family we are just friends- any advice?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “You have every right to be confused. I could understand it if this had happened in the first six months of you dating, ...
8 February 2020

My partner's ex doesn't want me to go on holiday with them- any advice?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “I think the key to resolving this thorny issue is your current partner. You don’t mention anything about his thoughts on his ex’s ...
7 February 2020

My boyfriend can't reach the big 'o'- what else can I do?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “You are both very young and I can understand why you are getting anxious about your boyfriend not orgasming, but it really is ...
6 February 2020

I keep comparing my boyfriend to my best friend- how can I stop?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “Wow - this a really tricky one. First thing to say is: lucky you. You have a fabulous boyfriend and a best friend ...
5 February 2020

My boyfriend has lied to me about messaging an ex- any advice?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: ”I think you need to take a hardline on this gross betrayal of trust. The only reason I am not suggesting you dump ...
4 February 2020

I've not been intimate with my partner for 16 years- am I being unreasonable?

Noel McDermott says: I don’t feel you are being unreasonable, actually my heart goes out to you. In fact you may well have been a little too reasonable, maybe 16 ...
3 February 2020

Is he still interested in me even though he has a girlfriend?

Noel McDermott says: You are indeed confused, and maybe that confusion is about your own motives. It seems to me you are engaging in what we therapists call ‘projection’. It’s ...
2 February 2020

My boyfriend and my best friend have become best friends- what should I do?

Noel McDermott says: This is a very hurtful thing and to be honest with you I would have expected they would both have had a little more sensitivity about this. I can absolutely understand ...
1 February 2020

My partner didn't tell me he had a girlfriend when we met- can I trust him?

Noel McDermott says: Love is not enough to make a relationship work, and it often can be absent in very functional relationships for periods of time, as like any emotion it ...
31 January 2020

He is going travelling for three months- how will I cope?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “First of all, let’s look at the positives. You have met a fab new partner and cannot bear the idea of being apart ...
30 January 2020

My girlfriend doesn't want to spend time with me- what's going on?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “This is a tricky one. Both of you have made a huge step in embarking on your first lesbian relationship with each other ...
29 January 2020

I'm still in love with my high school crush- what should I do?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “What a thorny dilemma! Let’s start with your current long-term relationship. You don’t tell me much about your partner. It sounds like you ...
28 January 2020

He's led me on for the best part of a year- how do I get over this?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “You have taken the most important first step by realising that this new ‘relationship’ (I use the term loosely) is a waste of ...