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1 January 2020

Why is our relationship not the same as it used to be?

Noel McDermott says: I would suggest a relationship MOT to see if there is enough there to save, there are things such as global assessment of relationship functioning which will give you a numerical ...
31 December 2019

I don't feel quite right at university- any advice?

Jo Howarth says: Bless your heart. I want to ask you to take a slow, deep breath and a step back to start with. Take the pressure off yourself. If ...
31 December 2019

Is my girlfriend looking for a partner or a protector?

Carole Ann Rice says: This must be very frustrating for you because its not an equal relationship and some men do like to be a protector / rescuer if that’s ...
30 December 2019

Should I leave my controlling partner?

Carole Ann Rice Says: You have made a lot of sacrifices for him and taken on his family, with a cost to yourself because you live away from your own ...
30 December 2019

Am I underappreciated by my boyfriend?

Dear Anonymous, Thank you for your dilemma. Just from this initial bit of information it does appear to me that there may be a power imbalance in your current relationship. ...
29 December 2019

Should I tell my friends and family that I am back with my ex?

Carole Ann Rice says: This is your story and you get to write how it goes, you write the rules, the beginning and the end of this story. It may ...
29 December 2019

Why was I attracted to a woman when I've never been before?

Dear Anonymous, Thank you for your dilemma. Butterflies in the stomach are a really natural (and nice!) feeling when we like someone and this is because we are tapping into ...
28 December 2019

Why do I feel responsible for my parent's miserable life?

Carole Ann Rice says: You sound like a lovely a daughter and you are still really young, and likely too young to carry your parent’s burdens or sadness. It is ...
27 December 2019

Why am I always reaching out to my date first?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “You have given very scant details so it is difficult to get a full picture of what is going on.  But in the ...
27 December 2019

Why won't my wife be intimate with me anymore?

Dear anonymous, Thank you for your dilemma. It does sound as if there’s been quite a shift in your relationship since you have had your children, particularly your second child. ...
26 December 2019

How can I help my daughter with her depression?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “I really feel for you. Please be assured: you have done nothing wrong and it sounds like you are a wonderful mother to ...
26 December 2019

Why is my partner's family causing so many issues ahead of our wedding?

Rachael Lloyd at eharmony says: I’m so sorry to hear that during a time when you should be excitedly planning a wedding, other people seem hellbent on causing rifts. That ...
25 December 2019

Are my trust issues making me doubt my current relationship?

Rachael Lloyd at eharmony says: Firstly, I’m sorry to hear about the betrayal you suffered in your last relationship. Unless you’ve been cheated on, it’s hard to fully understand the shock ...
24 December 2019

I have feelings for my manager but I still love my boyfriend- any advice?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “I really feel for you because you are stuck in a love triangle which is largely not of your making. Let’s deal with ...
24 December 2019

Am I overthinking my friend's relationship?

Rachael Lloyd at eharmony says: This sounds like a confusing and intense situation which has ripple effects across a whole group of people, including yourself, your boyfriend and respective friends. My ...
23 December 2019

My boyfriend doesn't wants kids but I do- any advice?

Rachael Lloyd at eharmony says: One of the most challenging things about relationships is that you can be deeply in love with someone and yet face dealbreakers which prevent you going ...
23 December 2019

I miss my happy mum- what can I do to help her feel better?

Hi anonymous, It sounds as if you have witnessed and struggled with some complex family dynamics over the years and these can be hard to navigate when you feel that ...
22 December 2019

Does he truly care about me or is he protecting himself?

Sometimes if we have been hurt we can go into self-preservation mode to protect ourselves from being hurt again. Often in relationships we can see this back and forth when ...
22 December 2019

I feel like my husband takes me for granted- what should I do?

Hi Anonymous, Although you say that your husband isn’t communicating with you, I would say that his actions are communicating something powerful to you. When someone values and respects you, ...
21 December 2019

Why was he intimate with me when he has a girlfriend and a child?

I'm sorry to hear that this has happened to you. It's always hard to loose a relationship with someone that we have got close to, particularly if we have also ...
21 December 2019

Am I right to feel betrayed and angry at my ex boyfriend's behaviour?

Hi Anonymous, Firstly, it’s not wrong to feel a certain way, so no need to feel guilty about feeling angry. Our feelings are our feelings, there’s no right or wrong. ...
20 December 2019

Are we compatible?

The only people that can decide if you are incompatible long term is the two of you. Esther Perel talks about how we are in multiple relationships with the same ...
20 December 2019

Should I trust him after he ghosted me?

Dr Rina Bajaj says:  Hi Anonymous, Firstly, I just wanted to say that his Ghosting says more about him than it does about you! It’s easy to build up a ...
19 December 2019

Why does my daughter make my blood boil?

It's inevitable that every parent-child relationships will have their testing times, and it's also really easy to get stuck in perspectives in relationships, whether it's with our partners, children, colleagues ...