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1 December 2019

Should I ask her if she wants to date other people until we can live together?

Clarissa Bloom says: While it can be a difficult conversation, it is something which needs to be discussed to know you are both in the same mindset, or if not, ...
30 November 2019

Why am I so jealous of my sister?

Noel McDermott says: In my experience all relationships can improve if there is willingness on both sides. You seem to be motivated to make changes and you seem to acknowledge your 'side of the ...
29 November 2019

Should I end my three year relationship?

Noel McDermott says: I’m not sure what age you are but I’m going to assume as you are going to University that you are quite young and this relationship started in school ...
28 November 2019

I'm pregnant to a man who already has a partner and kids- what should I do?

Noel McDermott says: This sounds like a situation in which you may be involved with a sex addict. The early parts of your relationship involve what I would call “love bombing”. This and his  hidden relationship ...
27 November 2019

Are we stopping each other from finding someone else by living together?

Noel McDermott says: This is a very familiar issue often seen in long term relationships. What I don’t get a sense of is that both of you have agreed on ...
26 November 2019

I've fallen for a guy who's married- should I stick around or walk away?

I’m glad you said it, and not me: you are second best in this relationship. Actually, you’re only 4th or 5th best, after the wife and kids. No matter how ...
25 November 2019

My boyfriend's family is getting in the way of our future- what can I do to change this?

Rachael Lloyd at eharmony says: I want to bear witness to the fact that you obviously love your boyfriend very much. You really want a future together and the opportunity to budget ...
24 November 2019

My friend ignored me for a month- where do I go from here?

I am sorry you’re in so much agony about this ghosting. They say that friends are with us for a lifetime, a season – or a reason. Your friendship has ...
23 November 2019

I really like this girl but we have both been with other people- what should I do?

Nick Davies says: You both have had indiscretions so there appears to be a lack of respect and trust on both parts, maybe you're both too young or not ready ...
22 November 2019

I have feelings for my colleague- should I leave my husband for him?

Nick Davies says: It sounds like your husband may have a past trauma around finance or debt from his childhood, ask him about this and also share how it makes ...
21 November 2019

My best friend has a crush on me but I like his brother- any advice?

Nick Davies says:It's important in decision making to look at things from everyone's perspective, put yourself in their shoes. How would you feel if you were your best friend and ...
20 November 2019

My friend keeps asking to borrow money- what should I do?

Nick Davies says: As a leading UK Psychotherapist and Hypnotherapist I often find most people who have a problem with gambling (or any other addiction), is because they are using ...
19 November 2019

Why is he shutting me out after our holiday together?

Carole Ann Rice sayd: He may be a perfectionist and is feeling that he is letting you down and is embarrassed because he isn’t perfect at the moment. You love ...
18 November 2019

How can I tell my bride-to-be-how I feel inside?

Carole Ann Rice says: A very sad situation because you have had a terrible family trauma. You are likely in trauma yourself and grief and I don’t think you have ...
17 November 2019

He says he fancies me but doesn't want to commit- any advice?

Carol Ann Rice says: It sounds like there is a lot of shared history together as old friends and acquaintances and you are back together on a high energy sexual ...
16 November 2019

My sister has found suggestive texts on her husband's phone- what can I do to help her?

Jo Howarth says:Bless your sister, what a horrible situation to be in and how lucky is she to have a supportive, caring sister like you? The best way you can ...
15 November 2019

Did my boyfriend ever really love me at all?

Jo Howarth says: It sounds to me as if stress has a big part to play in this. You are bickering and not enjoying each other as much because you ...
14 November 2019

Should I leave my partner of five years?

Jo Howarth says: I am going to ask you to start doing one of my favourite things in the whole world, and that is hugging. Forget about sex for the ...
13 November 2019

I've been seeing a guy who has a girlfriend- should I wait for him to leave her?

Jo Howarth says: My overwhelming instinct is to ask you why you don't believe you deserve to have a happy, loving relationship? Why is it ok for you to be ...
12 November 2019

I had an 'experience' with my female friend- how do I tell my boyfriend?

Clarissa Bloom says: You are certainly not the first person that has spoken to me about this subject. It can be a deeply confusing and frustrating situation. We grow up in ...
11 November 2019

Should I leave my boyfriend for someone I've always had feelings for?

Clarissa Bloom says: Love is never easy and it's certainly not black and white. We can't help the way we feel and that sometimes puts us in precarious positions such ...
10 November 2019

My boyfriend wants to get back together after nine months of no contact- what should I do?

Clarissa Bloom says: First, you have to consider the reasoning behind how the relationship broke down. Did they have valid reason to want to end the relationship, or did they ...
9 November 2019

My partner and my family don't get on- what should I do?

Clarissa Bloom says: This is an incredibly common issue, however being close to the partner, it is natural to be emotional in your reaction. Instead, you should take a step back ...
8 November 2019

Should I ask my girlfriend to move jobs after her affair?

"Let’s start with some reality  - not everyone who has been in ‘one’ relationship cheats, it sounds like you have a desire to forgive and move on even though you ...