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22 August 2019

Am I being selfish asking my mother for money?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: "First of all, it is important to stress that you are a good daughter and it is wonderful that you are making an ...
21 August 2019

Why can't I let go of my ex?

It’s natural to get a hit of excitement when an ex pops up out of the blue, especially when there’s a chance of unfinished business for us to fantasise about. ...
20 August 2019

Should I tell my ex I still have feelings for him?

If he doesn’t seem to be that into you, the truth is that he probably isn’t…. a harsh but honest fact. It sounds as though he’s aware of your feelings, ...
19 August 2019

Why is my partner sleeping on the couch?

Hi Anonymous,  Do the two of you usually have an emotionally intimate and open relationship, where you both feel you can freely express how you feel? Each couple have their ...
11 August 2019

Why is my boyfriend acting so distant?

First of all, there is no ‘normal’ in relationships, but I will say that the 'honeymoon stage' is certainly longer than 6 weeks, it’s longer than 2 months and can ...
6 August 2019

Why is he dragging his feet?

Hi Anonymous,   At least you can rest assured the he is not using you for sex- if he was, he would have done the deed by now and still dragging his ...
4 August 2019

Why does the man I've been having an affair with want to stop seeing me?

Jessica Leoni, sex and relationship expert, said: "What an unhappy situation you find yourself in. "Let's start first with the affair. Painful as it is, it is time to move ...
2 August 2019

Should we call time on our relationship?

Jessica Leoni, sex and relationship expert, said: "I'm afraid to say that I do feel that there are very real issues with your relationship. You are definitely NOT overthinking things. ...
1 August 2019

We haven't made love in the last year of our marriage- what can I do?

Jessica Leoni, sex and relationship expert, said: "You are right to seek help because there is no doubt that your marriage is in crisis just two years after you wed. ...
31 July 2019

Should I tell my boyfriend my ex has been in touch?

Dear Anonymous, Firstly well done for leaving a hurtful relationship and going into what seems like a kind and loving one. However, even as your ex, it seems like this ...
30 July 2019

Why is my boyfriend messaging a woman from work?

Our Resident Real Fairy Godmother Michelle Zelli says: Oh Pippa, no wonder you’re feeling upset and hurt! Your situation isn’t as straightforward as it might at first appear and it would be ...
30 July 2019

I've recently ended an 11 year relationship- where can I meet new women?

Our Resident Real Fairy Godmother Michelle Zelli answers one of our reader dilemmas: Dear Anonymous, It can be a shock to the system when we step into the big wide dating ...
30 July 2019

My partner wants a temporary separation- what should I do?

Dear Anonymous,  It can be very uncertain when someone wants to have a temporary separation, and in many ways it can feel like you are prolonging the uncertainty about what ...
29 July 2019

How do I fall out of love with my married best friend?

Hi Anonymous,  Firstly, sorry for your pain. This is indeed not an easy situation to be in and the complexity is aggravated when you say that both of you cannot ...
23 July 2019

Why does my boyfriend spend more time with his grandma than with me?

Hi Anonymous, It sounds like your boyfriend might have matured beyond his years because he has an older guardian. Perhaps his grandma has had a significant influence over what he ...

16 July 2019

My partner's foot fetish is out of control, what can I do?

Jessica Leoni, sex and relationship expert, said: "Foot fetishes are surprisingly common. It is the sixth most common fetish in the UK (filming each other having sex was the most ...
14 July 2019

My partner of 10 years has been secretly texting his ex- what should I do?

Hello Anonymous, Thank you for getting in touch with the Female First Agony Aunts. The first thing we would ask is if it’s out of character for your husband to ...
14 July 2019

My ex has naked pics of me- should I be worried?

Hi Caitlyn, There is speculation this month in the media that posting explicit pictures of your ex might become illegal in the UK; it already is in other countries. With this ...
14 July 2019

Why does my partner have a picture of a naked woman on his phone?

Hi Anonymous, thanks for getting in touch.  If you are planning to move in together then you need to know that you can trust him. If you have addressed this ...
14 July 2019

My girlfriend sent naked pictures to another man- is this cheating?

Hi Anonymous, thanks for getting in touch. All couples have their own definition of what constitutes as cheating and what crosses the line. If you feel uncomfortable that she has ...
14 July 2019

My boyfriend has naked pictures of his ex on his computer, am I allowed to be upset?

Hello Anonymous, thanks for getting in touch.  It must have been alarming to find naked pictures of a woman on your partner's computer but it sounds like you felt an ...
14 July 2019

My girlfriend wants to do nude stripping

If you really like this woman then you shouldn’t let her job stand in the way. It is difficult to get your head around, but if she is beautiful she ...
27 July 2018

Is he using me for sex?

Our Resident Real Fairy Godmother Michelle Zelli says: Dear Milada, I am sorry to hear you’re caught up in the craziness and pain of this common romantic conundrum, one I work ...
20 July 2018

Is he cheating on me?

Our Resident Real Fairy Godmother Michelle Zelli says: Dear Laura Jane, I wish I could reassure you but am sorry to say there’s every chance you are being Gaslighted. The change ...