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15 July 2020

Does she regard me in the same way I do her?

Jessica Leoni, sex and relationship expert, said: “I don’t see what you have got to lose by confessing your feelings for your friend. You have been struggling with this issue ...
10 July 2020

Am I a cheapskate?

Jessica Leoni, sex and relationship expert, said: “What a sad situation and it does sound like you have been very unfairly treated. You shouldn’t feel bad about not carrying cash ...
9 July 2020

Why am I still thinking about my ex a year and a half later?

Jessica Leoni, sex and relationship expert, said: “Wow - what a wonderfully vivid letter - you sound like a great catch and such a fun, exciting, young woman with a ...
11 April 2020

I want my ex back- any advice?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “You need to start by looking at the reasons why you split up in the first place. You were together for two years ...
9 April 2020

I'm not happy in my relationship anymore but we're in lockdown- what should I do?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “It sounds to me like your issues with your partner long pre-date the lockdown and the inevitable tensions this will cause for any ...
6 April 2020

He told me things are complicated with his ex- am I being naive?

It seems to me pretty clear that you want this man to commit to you, in terms of being in an exclusive relationship.  However, he has made it quite clear he ...
4 April 2020

My boyfriend has another girlfriend- how can he love us both?

Its not clear from your message whether he began seeing you both at the same time, however it sounds to me like he may have been with the other woman ...
30 March 2020

I think I'm in love with my close friend- what should I do?

You’ve known each other 6 months, so its still fairly early days in your friendship. If you feel in love with her now then you’ve had romantic feelings for her ...
17 March 2020

My boyfriend is dishonest- should I stay with him?

Hi there, Forgive my candour, but this man isn’t really your boyfriend. He may call himself your boyfriend, he may state you’re in a relationship, but he is simply filing ...
16 March 2020

I feel like my boyfriend doesn't care about me- any advice?

Hi there, My advice regarding this situation is clear cut – if the relationship is damaging your confidence and making you miserable, you need to leave. People’s actions (or lack ...
12 March 2020

My husband has been sending flirty messages to another woman- why won't he stop?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “I really feel for you and I can completely understand why this is ‘breaking your heart’. It would break anyone’s and it is ...
21 January 2020

We don't want to break up but we live in different countries- any advice?

Rachael Lloyd at eharmony says: Hi there, I’m really pleased you met a lovely guy and got to enjoy some special and meaningful times together. It sounds like you genuinely adore ...
22 May 2018

I've Got A Talent For Making Music- What Should I Do About It?

Hi Damonte, I would suggest putting some of your work on You Tube. A lot of artists have been discovered this way- take Justin Bieber for example and look how successful ...
30 March 2017

Am I Being Controlling In My Relationship?

Hi Catherine, It is understandable that you are uneasy about your partner meeting up with her ex, but even more so when she has caused some upset in your relationship in ...
30 March 2017

How Can I Stop My Friend Controlling Our Friendship Group?

My first piece of advice would be to talk to someone the next time you are angry with them rather than text. There is no sense of tone or any ...
30 March 2017

Why Can't I Control My Attraction For My Married Guy Friend?

You have taken the first step by admitting that you know it’s wrong. Well, I say that, it’s not wrong to be attracted to him. But you clearly believe that ...
30 March 2017

Why Do I Try To Control My Boyfriend?

Hi Ashleigh, It sounds like you believe you have a good thing and want to hold onto it tight. There is nothing wrong with appreciating what you have, which can ...
23 February 2017

Why Is My Partner Texting Sex Workers?

Hi Anonymous, Although you say that the relationship seems perfect, there is usually some doubt in the partnership. This will cause us to act suspiciously. I’m assuming this is not ...
22 February 2017

How Can I Stop My Partner Moving Out?

Hi Buttercup, It does sound like the arrangement is taking its toll on your relationship. This begs the question, if the situation is unlikely to alter any time soon- is ...
6 February 2017

How Can I Get Past The Guilt Of My Break-Up?

Hi Catalina,  Firstly I would ask you the reasons why you want him back when you admit you were miserable with him, and all he did was irritate you? I suspect ...
24 January 2017

Why don't I believe my boyfriend when he compliments me?

Hi Georgia, If you are still haunted by the comments from pervious boyfriends when they said things to your face and something different behind your back, this will inevitably impact ...
12 January 2017

How can I stop people laughing at my ginger hair?

You are absolutely right- your hair colour should not matter at all. Only 1-2% of people around the world have red hair which makes you distinctive and perhaps different from ...
9 January 2017

Will my partner always be selfish?

Hi Deb, Money is the catalyst for fights in many a relationship, especially when it is about a lot of money. Put the deposit aside- the contribution to your bills ...
15 December 2016

Why do I feel numb at Christmas?

Hi Leonie, Christmas means different things to different people. Some like to take things to the excess and drink, eat and spend lots just because they can, others see it ...