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11 August 2014

I've found my dad's porn stash- how can I stop my mum finding out?

Hi Mark, It can be uncomfortable talking to your parents about anything of a sexual nature, especially when it’s about their particular preferences. It might be that your mum already knows ...
29 July 2014

Why am I so concerned about the way my vagina looks?

Hi Melanie, All vaginas look different- there is nowhere that says they have to be a certain size or shape. Some women have larger labia than others. If you find the ...
10 July 2014

How can I forgive my husband for going to a massage parlour?

Hi Wendy, Infidelity is one of the hardest things that a married couple potentially has to face and forgiveness and trust might be difficult to comprehend when you have only just ...
7 July 2014

Should I stay with my husband if I don't fancy him anymore?

Hi Laura, Although being ‘caring, considerate and loyal’ are wonderful attributes in a man, in any relationship there still needs to be some element of physical attraction, otherwise you are simply ...
8 June 2014

Why won't my boyfriend have regular sex with me?

Hi Jayne, Women often automatically think that when men don’t want to have sex with them that it's down to their attractiveness, when actually it could be a good number of ...

12 March 2014

'She never has an orgasm during sex....'

Hi Robert, It sounds like this is the one thing that is getting in the way of your relationship when everything else is going so well. Remember that most women can’t orgasm ...

11 March 2014

'I'm finding it hard to orgasm.....'

Hi Holly, This sounds very frustrating for not only you but your partner too, when the medication might be helping you in some ways and not others. Why not go back to ...

16 February 2014

'I get around a bit......'

Hi Roisin, It sounds like you are craving love and attention you lacked with your previous partner but finding it in the wrong places. Those who you go out with may get ...
13 February 2014

'It hurts when he's on top of me....'

Hi Quelli,   As with anal sex in any position, a lot of lube is a good idea. Unlike the vagina, the anus does not produce its own natural lubricant when its ...
17 January 2014

I can't climax from penetrative sex

Hi Jasi,   Most women don’t experience orgasm with their partners inside them. It doesn’t mean that there is a problem with either of you. It’s simply down to the way women ...

15 January 2014

He's having live chat sex with other women!

Hi Angela,   You have come to terms and found the understanding when for he watches porn.  A lot of women could not find it in themselves to accept this, so the ...
26 December 2013

He hasn't called in three days!

Hi Lola, If he hasn’t made the effort to call why not get in touch with him? If you don’t and he leaves it another few days you will be left ...
13 December 2013

Am I still a virgin?

Hi Esther, thanks for getting in touch! If you didn’t have penetrative sex then you are still classed as a virgin by most heterosexuals. Some cultures and people of different sexual ...
9 December 2013

Is masturbation bad?

Hi Sarah, thanks for getting in touch! Masturbation is a natural process so no, it’s not bad. Some people feel guilty because of their family and upbringing where sex is not ...

28 November 2013

I need help talking dirty to my boyfriend

Hi Tamela, thanks for getting in touch. If you haven’t done this at all already then don’t go all in with a barrage of dirty talk, I would suggest doing it ...

18 November 2013

How can I spice up my sex life with my wife?

Hi Bill, thanks for getting in touch.   Women respond well to romance, which often will follow on to sex when they feel sufficiently pursued. Why not take her out for a ...
7 October 2013

My husband won't play with me down there

Some of the points you can make to him are: Reinforce the fact that anal sex is much tighter around his penis, as the anal sphincters are more taught than that ...

4 September 2013

What is the best thing to use to shave a vagina?

You can do several things here. The first, is a razor, but make sure that you are careful when using this, especially around the sensitive areas like your clitoris. One ...

4 September 2013

My boyfriend has threatened to leave me

Technically speaking the anus is not built for penetration and with anal sex, there can be a lot of complications, especially if you have trouble in this area to begin ...

1 September 2013

Premature ejaculation- other helpful hints!

Other ways to help in this area are to try and reduce your anxiety. There is huge pressure to perform for men and that is why they come quickly. Try ...

20 August 2013

My boyfriend would rather watch porn than have sex with me!

Porn is the easier option, it may have nothing to do with not wanting to have sex with you, it just means less effort on his part, as less energy ...
15 August 2013

My Love life has gone sour!

Hi Jenni, thanks for writing in. This is completely normal to feel this way, it is probably less about his attraction to you and more about just being comfortable in the ...
12 August 2013

When I play with myself I don't get any pleasure

If you are new to masturbation then it always takes time to get right. There are several things you can do to help this. Lubrication is key to getting yourself ...

10 August 2013

I feel like I need to pee when we have sex!

My best advice would be to pee before you have sex and after as this can reduce the likelihood of UTIs (urinary tract infections), and this should lessen the feeling ...

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