Need Help?

If you need help or advice, you can ask Yin & Yang. It's quick, easy, free and you don't have to leave your real name.

6 September 2020

Is it normal to doubt if I should be with my partner or not?

Dear Reader, You’re right, everyone goes through periods in their relationships where they aren’t always sure if the dynamic or the person they’re with is right for them. Not only ...
5 September 2020

Why is my partner keeping me a secret from his friends?

Jessica Leoni, sex and relationship expert, said: “You are right to be worried and his obsession  (and I don’t think that is too strong a word) with compartmentalising his life ...
4 September 2020

My mother sees things that aren't there- any advice?

Jessica Leoni, sex and relationship expert, said: “You mum is 90 so you have every reason to be worried about her for all manner of reasons - not least the ...
3 September 2020

Is my boyfriend using Covid as an excuse to avoid me?

Jessica Leoni, sex and relationship expert, said: “You are not being selfish at all and I have every sympathy with your predicament. Covid is the most awful nightmare for so ...
2 September 2020

My girlfriend is mad that I feel asleep during...any advice?

Jessica Leoni, sex and relationship expert, said: “Tell her to calm down because she is being way too sensitive. Of course, I can see why she was offended but I ...
1 September 2020

I hate myself for what I did with my best friend- any advice?

Being intimate with a friend is one of the things in life that is difficult to undo once done. I wonder if you’re hating that fact rather than yourself? I ...
22 August 2020

My husband died a year ago, but I've met a man I want to kiss- any advice?

Because you don’t give details of your relationship or how your husband’s death affected you, I’m going to assume his loss is something you have grieved and are probably still ...
21 August 2020

My partner doesn't want children or marriage- what should I do?

Jessica Leoni, sex and relationship expert, said: “I think you need to be straight with this guy and put your cards on the table and tell him exactly what you ...
20 August 2020

Why is my husband so stingy?

Jessica Leoni, sex and relationship expert, said: “You are right to be concerned: your husband sounds like a nightmare. Let’s start with the issue of money. I think tight-fistedness is ...
19 August 2020

Why is my husband flirting with other women?

Jessica Leoni, sex and relationship expert, said: “I am sorry if I sound overly pessimistic but I do think you have a real problem here with your husband. You say ...
18 August 2020

I get anxious whenever my boyfriend does anything without me- any advice?

Jessica Leoni, sex and relationship expert, said: “The first thing you need to address is whether your anxiety pre-dates your relationship with your boyfriend. I suspect that it does and ...
17 August 2020

My husband has let himself go- any advice?

The Good Enough Coach Natalie Trice says: I'm sorry to hear you are so unhappy and I think many people will identify with some of the issues you are experiencing.  Navigating ...
16 August 2020

Will my friend think I'm being disloyal when she finds out what I've done?

The Good Enough Coach Natalie Trice says: This is a very tricky situation and one that comes up a lot and while we can say there is a hard rule that "exes ...
15 August 2020

Should I continue to see him or forget about him?

Mig Bennett says: I feel for you. Whether you’re male or female you’ve been brave enough to tell this guy that you were interested in him, liked him enough to ...
14 August 2020

Why did my friend use my news as gossip?

Noel McDermott says: “One of the primary rules of life is that we cannot control others, imagining we can only leads to resentment. Maybe the person you are annoyed at ...
13 August 2020

My girlfriend has gained weight and I no longer find her attractive- any advice?

Sex and relationship expert Jessican Leoni said: “You say that you are at a ‘crossroads’ in your relationship over this issue and I think you are. Sex is the glue ...
12 August 2020

Am I being selfish for wanting to sell our home?

Sex and relationship expert Jessican Leoni said: “You say at the start of the letter that ‘we are selling our home to move to a bigger one’ - so it ...
11 August 2020

Am I failing my children?

Sex and relationship expert Jessican Leoni said: “You are being way too hard on yourself, which is understandable given your circumstances because you have an awful lot on your plate. ...
10 August 2020

Should I leave my career to make my partner happy?

Sex and relationship expert Jessican Leoni said: “You are facing a really tough dilemma and ultimately your final decision is going to be determined by your feelings for your boyfriend. ...
9 August 2020

Have I gone off my partner completely or is it normal to feel this way after pregnancy?

Let’s start with your questions. Yes. The demise of a couple’s sexual relationship often starts with the first child’s arrival. Parenthood is uncharted territory; new parents need security and stability ...

8 August 2020

Is it a good idea to have a casual relationship with my friend?

Martina Mercer says: Hi there, having a friend with benefits can be a very liberating experience, as long as, as you have done, both parties understand the boundaries and agree ...
6 August 2020

How can I stop my heart from being broken again?

Noel McDermott says: “The first thing I would say is trust yourself. You clearly feel something is wrong and needs to be discussed fully. You are correct, here’s a little ...
5 August 2020

How can I heal after what I found on my boyfriend's phone?

Nadia Deen says: Dear Reader, Finding out your partner has betrayed you by asking strangers for nudes, is upsetting and heartbreaking.  It breaks your trust in that person and encourages ...
4 August 2020

I've been hurt in the past, how can I learn to trust someone again?

Sex and relationship expert Jessican Leoni said: “You have provided very few details so it is difficult for me to be too firm in my judgements. My gut instinct is ...