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18 February 2020

My husband works away a lot and I feel like I don't know him anymore- any advice?

Jo Howarth says: The question you need to ask yourself is do you still want to be with him? Do you still love him? If so then the situation is ...
17 February 2020

I'm pregnant and due on my sister's wedding day- what should I do?

Jo Howarth says: In my experience not many babies arrive on their exact due date. I’m assuming that you’re worried yours will and that it will upstage your sister’s day or ...
16 February 2020

I fancy my boyfriend's best mate- am I just bored?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “It would be good to know a little more context in this situation. How long have you been with your boyfriend? And are ...
15 February 2020

My partner is so eager to please it's pushing me away- what can I do?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “I do have some sympathy with your partner. He clearly loves you a lot and is doing everything he can to make the ...
14 February 2020

Does my ex mean it when he says he doesn't want anything to do with me?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: ”Sorry to be the bearer of bad news but it does sound like you ex wants out. He is probably doing you a ...
13 February 2020

Should I give up on guy one for guy two?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “This is a tricky one. You will probably expect me to say, dump guy number 1 and devote all your energies to guy ...
12 February 2020

My stepson does nothing- how can I get my wife to understand that he can't go on like this?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “This a tricky one and is going to have to be handled with extreme care. Any sensible person would review the situation and ...
9 February 2020

My partner of 15 years has told his family we are just friends- any advice?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “You have every right to be confused. I could understand it if this had happened in the first six months of you dating, ...
8 February 2020

My partner's ex doesn't want me to go on holiday with them- any advice?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “I think the key to resolving this thorny issue is your current partner. You don’t mention anything about his thoughts on his ex’s ...
7 February 2020

My boyfriend can't reach the big 'o'- what else can I do?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “You are both very young and I can understand why you are getting anxious about your boyfriend not orgasming, but it really is ...
6 February 2020

I keep comparing my boyfriend to my best friend- how can I stop?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “Wow - this a really tricky one. First thing to say is: lucky you. You have a fabulous boyfriend and a best friend ...
5 February 2020

My boyfriend has lied to me about messaging an ex- any advice?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: ”I think you need to take a hardline on this gross betrayal of trust. The only reason I am not suggesting you dump ...
4 February 2020

I've not been intimate with my partner for 16 years- am I being unreasonable?

Noel McDermott says: I don’t feel you are being unreasonable, actually my heart goes out to you. In fact you may well have been a little too reasonable, maybe 16 ...
3 February 2020

Is he still interested in me even though he has a girlfriend?

Noel McDermott says: You are indeed confused, and maybe that confusion is about your own motives. It seems to me you are engaging in what we therapists call ‘projection’. It’s ...
2 February 2020

My boyfriend and my best friend have become best friends- what should I do?

Noel McDermott says: This is a very hurtful thing and to be honest with you I would have expected they would both have had a little more sensitivity about this. I can absolutely understand ...
1 February 2020

My partner didn't tell me he had a girlfriend when we met- can I trust him?

Noel McDermott says: Love is not enough to make a relationship work, and it often can be absent in very functional relationships for periods of time, as like any emotion it ...
31 January 2020

He is going travelling for three months- how will I cope?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “First of all, let’s look at the positives. You have met a fab new partner and cannot bear the idea of being apart ...
30 January 2020

My girlfriend doesn't want to spend time with me- what's going on?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “This is a tricky one. Both of you have made a huge step in embarking on your first lesbian relationship with each other ...
29 January 2020

I'm still in love with my high school crush- what should I do?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “What a thorny dilemma! Let’s start with your current long-term relationship. You don’t tell me much about your partner. It sounds like you ...
28 January 2020

He's led me on for the best part of a year- how do I get over this?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “You have taken the most important first step by realising that this new ‘relationship’ (I use the term loosely) is a waste of ...
27 January 2020

My friends and I no longer have anything in common- how can I meet people organically?

Clarissa Bloom says: Your dilemma is shared by a large number of adults, making friends isn't easy as an adult, however there are plenty of opportunities. Look to see if ...
26 January 2020

I miss the way my wife used to be- how can I get the old her back?

Clarissa Bloom says: It is very possible she is using her work as an escape, a way to deal with the terrible difficulties you mentioned. For this reason, you should tread ...
25 January 2020

I'm not attracted to him in person- shall I stay with him?

Clarissa Bloom says: There has to be a physical attraction, however you can begin to find someone more attractive as your minds combine and you find personal connections. Only you ...
24 January 2020

I think my husband is having an affair, what should I do?

Clarissa Bloom says:  This is a very difficult scenario.  Honesty and openness is critical in a relationship and it appears communication has broken down. It can sometimes be worth seeking ...