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11 April 2017

Is It Ok To Grieve For A Pet?

Hi Jasmine, It’s completely normal to grieve over a pet that has passed away. Pets are one of the family and love you without judgement like people often do, so sometimes ...
6 April 2017

Should I Contact Her After 30 Years To Say Sorry?

Hi Stu, Perhaps the reason you have not put this to bed is because she said she would think about what you had every day and maybe you are still doing ...
30 March 2017

Am I Being Controlling In My Relationship?

Hi Catherine, It is understandable that you are uneasy about your partner meeting up with her ex, but even more so when she has caused some upset in your relationship in ...
30 March 2017

How Can I Stop My Friend Controlling Our Friendship Group?

My first piece of advice would be to talk to someone the next time you are angry with them rather than text. There is no sense of tone or any ...
30 March 2017

Why Can't I Control My Attraction For My Married Guy Friend?

You have taken the first step by admitting that you know it’s wrong. Well, I say that, it’s not wrong to be attracted to him. But you clearly believe that ...
30 March 2017

Why Do I Try To Control My Boyfriend?

Hi Ashleigh, It sounds like you believe you have a good thing and want to hold onto it tight. There is nothing wrong with appreciating what you have, which can ...
23 February 2017

Why Is My Partner Texting Sex Workers?

Hi Anonymous, Although you say that the relationship seems perfect, there is usually some doubt in the partnership. This will cause us to act suspiciously. I’m assuming this is not ...
13 February 2017

Why Does My Husband Prefer To Play On His Computer Than Spend Time With Me?

Yin / Tyler Men and women think differently about situations such as this. Men think about providing for the home, so by working, he feels he has filled his quota ...
13 February 2017

My Boyfriend Has Naked Pictures Of His Ex On His Computer, Am I Allowed To Be Upset?

Hi Selina, It must have been alarming to find naked pictures of a woman on your partner's computer but it sounds like you felt an extra jolt when you realised ...
6 February 2017

How Can I Get Past The Guilt Of My Break-Up?

Hi Catalina,  Firstly I would ask you the reasons why you want him back when you admit you were miserable with him, and all he did was irritate you? I suspect ...
24 January 2017

Why don't I believe my boyfriend when he compliments me?

Hi Georgia, If you are still haunted by the comments from pervious boyfriends when they said things to your face and something different behind your back, this will inevitably impact ...
12 January 2017

How can I stop people laughing at my ginger hair?

You are absolutely right- your hair colour should not matter at all. Only 1-2% of people around the world have red hair which makes you distinctive and perhaps different from ...
9 January 2017

Will my partner always be selfish?

Hi Deb, Money is the catalyst for fights in many a relationship, especially when it is about a lot of money. Put the deposit aside- the contribution to your bills ...
27 October 2015

Why is my husband so upset that I bought a vibrator?

Hi Catrin, If he knew you had a vibrator when you moved in and he bought one for you when you first got your house together, it doesn't sound the ...

17 October 2015

Why do I only see my girlfriend as sweet and pretty?

Hi Jay,   It is good that you are still attracted to how pretty and sweet your girlfriend is after being together so long, but it sounds like this is getting in ...

17 October 2015

Why do I only see my girlfriend as sweet and pretty?

Hi Jay,   It is good that you are still attracted to how pretty and sweet your girlfriend is after being together so long, but it sounds like this is getting in ...

29 June 2015

Why won't my girlfriend agree to anal sex?

There are many things that can put a woman off having anal sex with their partner. Firstly- it can hurt- unless you are very gentle- there is the possibility that ...

26 June 2015

Did I lose my virginity?

A virgin is defined as 'someone who has never engaged in sexual intercourse', which is traditionally characterised by the penis entering the vagina- or 'vaginal intercourse' or 'vaginal sex'. The ...
23 June 2015

Why am I not interested in sex anymore?

This could be due to many things. Does your partner satisfy you in bed? Perhaps your old partner did and your new lover doesn't and you are comparing the two. ...

17 February 2015

Why can't I climax with anyone other than my ex?

Hi Paula, Vibrators can be our best friend or our worst enemy as they can make women desensitised as you have rightly pointed out. If you close your legs, the vibrations ...

30 January 2015

Why does my vagina makes noises when I'm lying down?

Hi Sammy, This is perfectly normal- the vaginal fart is something that all women experience at least once in their life. Simply put- air enters the vagina due to sex, masturbation ...

3 January 2015

How can I ask my boyfriend to stop watching x rated material?

Hi Anonymous, It’s important to remember that men are very visual creatures and much prefer to have something to watch while masturbating. Women on the other hand can suffice with just ...
16 December 2014

I'm worried my marriage is not going to work- what should I do?

Hi Anonymous, If you are in any doubt about getting married then you need to talk to your partner. What is worrying you? Perhaps write each thing down and a reason why ...
9 December 2014

I have a lump on my vagina- what should I do?

Hi Anonymous, This can be worrying for any woman so it’s no surprise that you are finding it hard to leave alone. If you shave down there, it could be in ingrown ...