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9 May 2022

How can I tell my boss I have feelings for him before I leave the country?

Karen Mooney says: Your boss sounds like a lovely, kind, caring man with very professional work ethics. You say he is older than you, if he is very much older ...
6 May 2022

How can I get my kids into sport and away from screens?

Dr Sophie Kent says: Physical activity has many important benefits for children's physical health and mental wellbeing. However, despite many children and families having high levels of knowledge about the ...
5 May 2022

I want to get into a sport but I'm not sure where to begin- any advice?

David Wiener, Training and Nutrition Specialist says: When it comes to exercise, one of the most important things to remember is that you must enjoy it. Putting pressure on yourself to ...
1 May 2022

My boyfriend prioritised his family over me- was he right to after the day I'd had?

Relationship expert Jessica Leoni says: “You don’t provide a great deal of background so it is hard for me to make a proper judgement but, based on the scant details ...
30 April 2022

My partner is an extrovert and I am an introvert- how can I be more like him?

Relationship expert Jessica Leoni says: “I do really feel for you and admire the way you are addressing your problems and bravely trying to come out of your shell and ...
29 April 2022

Why won't he leave his girlfriend for me after all we have been through?

Relationship expert Jessica Leoni says: “I think there are two very simple answers to the questions you pose at the end of your dilemma: yes and yes. Yes, you are ...
28 April 2022

My partner won't commit to a job- should I leave if I want to be financially secure?

Relationship expert Jessica Leoni says: “You sound like you are a really good woman and your partner is very lucky to have you. But I do think you are right ...
25 April 2022

My husband and I live separate lives, should we stay together?

Psychotherapist Noel McDermott says: “Flogging a dead horse never works and nor does building a life with someone who is this much the opposite of you.  It’s important to note ...

24 April 2022

How do I tell my husband that I know he's cheating on me?

Relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “I really feel for you - your situation sounds absolutely desperate. You are clearly besotted with your husband and don’t want to leave and I ...
23 April 2022

Should I believe that my husband was forced into having an affair?

Relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “No, you are not going mad. And to answer your other questions: don’t believe him and be highly suspicious! Your husband is a lying cheat ...
22 April 2022

I am being bullied at work and nothing is being done about it- can you help?

Relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “I am delighted to hear that you don’t view this job as a long-term option and are planning to leave after four weeks. This firm ...
21 April 2022

Why does my friend tell other people about my private life?

Relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “First of all it is important to say what a good friend you have been to this woman - trying to help through her anxieties ...
2 August 2021

My ex cheated and now I've caught him cheating on his new partner!

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “Stay out of it - it is none of your business. I appreciate that you went through a tough time with your ex ...
15 July 2021

My daughter-in-law accused me of doing things I haven't done; what should I do?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “What a sad story. If it is exactly as you have explained and you have been rejected by your daughter-in-law and three grandchildren ...
12 July 2021

I gave my boyfriend an ultimatum: Have you got any advice?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “I think you are right to lay down the law. You are 39 and at a crucial age if you want to settle ...
10 July 2021

I discovered my husband texting another woman...

“I fully understand your hurt and anger but you must move forward from this. It’s an old saying but it is a good one because it is so true - ...
18 June 2021

I'm no longer attracted to my partner of 19 years, should I leave him?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “Sex is the glue that keeps most marriages together and it is impossible to overlook its importance to your future happiness. I do ...
17 June 2021

Can you be in love with two people at the same time?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “Take it from me, most marriages are imperfect but basically good. You take the rough with the smooth and you ride out those ...
16 June 2021

Is his relationship with his ex inappropriate?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “I really don’t think you need any advice from me. You have done exactly the right thing in dumping him and you have ...
15 June 2021

I need to know if he wants more from me- am I being selfish?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “This is probably not what you want to hear but the thing you need to do more than anything at present is be ...
24 May 2021

What he wanted wasn't good for my mental health- was I right to leave?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “Wow - what a mess!" "Let’s start with your ex-partner. You were together for almost 3 years which is a long time. I ...
23 May 2021

My granddad is dying- why hasn't my boyfriend been more supportive?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “I think you need to view these recent difficulties in a wider context. This is not a new relationship: you have been with ...
22 May 2021

My partner is allergic to my cats- any advice on how we can see more of each other?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “This is a tricky one. I was allergic to cats when I was younger and had a similar reaction to them as your ...
21 May 2021

How can I still love the man I met online knowing what I do now?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “I’m very sorry to hear about your problems. The fairly obvious solution here is to forget about this man who clearly is a ...