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27 January 2020

My friends and I no longer have anything in common- how can I meet people organically?

Clarissa Bloom says: Your dilemma is shared by a large number of adults, making friends isn't easy as an adult, however there are plenty of opportunities. Look to see if ...
26 January 2020

I miss the way my wife used to be- how can I get the old her back?

Clarissa Bloom says: It is very possible she is using her work as an escape, a way to deal with the terrible difficulties you mentioned. For this reason, you should tread ...
25 January 2020

I'm not attracted to him in person- shall I stay with him?

Clarissa Bloom says: There has to be a physical attraction, however you can begin to find someone more attractive as your minds combine and you find personal connections. Only you ...
24 January 2020

I think my husband is having an affair, what should I do?

Clarissa Bloom says:  This is a very difficult scenario.  Honesty and openness is critical in a relationship and it appears communication has broken down. It can sometimes be worth seeking ...
23 January 2020

My new guy is best friends with my best friend- any advice?

Rachael Lloyd at eharmony says: Hi there, Newsflash – it takes two people to have a toxic relationship! So, if you’re still in touch with an ex and it’s impacting your ...
22 January 2020

My boyfriend just broke up with me and I'm feeling really low- any advice?

Rachael Lloyd at eharmony says: Hi there, I’m so sorry you’re going through what sounds like soul-wrenching heartbreak. Whether you’re prepared for it or not – when someone ends a relationship ...
21 January 2020

We don't want to break up but we live in different countries- any advice?

Rachael Lloyd at eharmony says: Hi there, I’m really pleased you met a lovely guy and got to enjoy some special and meaningful times together. It sounds like you genuinely adore ...
20 January 2020

I'm worried about my son's emotional state- how can I help him?

Rachael Lloyd at eharmony says: Hi there, Your email is moving because it’s obvious you want what’s best for your son in very difficult circumstances. It must be really hard watching him ...
18 January 2020

Should I take the risk even though he's leaving?

Dear anonymous, I’m sorry to hear that this hasn’t gone the way that you had hoped. This may be hard to hear, but it sounds to me as if he ...
17 January 2020

I think my boyfriend is cheating on me- what should I do?

Dear Anonymous, Thank you for writing in. This does seem like a complicated dilemma. One thing to state is that just because someone has cheated in a past relationship, it ...
16 January 2020

I think the guy I slept with gave me an STD, what should I do?

Dear Anonymous, Thank you for being so honest about I your situation. There’s a couple of things that I think are important to address here. Firstly, please do make sure ...
15 January 2020

Why did he tell me about another woman?

Dear Anonymous, Thank you for writing in. It sounds as if you have developed feelings for this guy, but the confusion is coming from not knowing where you stand and ...
12 January 2020

I only get to see my boyfriend on his terms- is this right?

If your relationship is truly something worth fighting for then my darling, you really must not worry and just go with it. You have to remember, everything is temporary! In ...
11 January 2020

I'm sure the feels the same about me as I do him- any advice?

Hi Anonymous, This feels like an emotionally challenging situation and I feel your sense of loss. I am not sure what the circumstances were and how your communication ended and ...
10 January 2020

My friend is now dating my ex but why has she fallen out with me over it?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “I really feel for you - what a sad situation. It seems so wrong that you are being punished not just by your ...
9 January 2020

Should I forgive my sister for what she's done?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “It is hard to give a definitive answer with such scant details because I do not know how your sister hurt you when ...
8 January 2020

I have feelings for two people who both like my best friend- any advice?

Noel McDermott says: Mutual respect is crucial in any relationship… whether it be a sexual friends with benefits or a committed monogamy. In terms of intimate love relationships this means ...
7 January 2020

Should we hold off trying for a baby now my sister is pregnant?

Hi Anonymous, Thank you for being so open with your thoughts and feelings. Family dynamics can be complicated, especially when they involve big life events, but I would urge you ...
6 January 2020

How can I juggle family life, work and get our relationship back on track?

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “What a complicated situation but it is one that I am sure you will be able to resolve. Hats off to you both ...
5 January 2020

My partner slept with his ex while drunk- should I forgive him?

Dear Anonymous, Thank you for your dilemma and it does certainly sound like you have all been through a lot emotionally recently, with quite major changes happening in such a ...
3 January 2020

My best friend is out of control- what more can I do for her?

Jo Howarth says: And at what point do you focus on your own life? Your friend sounds as if she has some serious learning to do, not just at university ...
2 January 2020

Why has my work friend not bothered with me while I've been off?

Noel McDermott says: It sounds like a difficult situation and to answer the question of should you say anything to her then I would counsel yes. You’re assuming they don’t ...
2 January 2020

How can I leave my partner without hurting him and the kids?

Jo Howarth says: You cannot take responsibility for anyone else's responses. You can only take responsibility for your own. If you are not happy in the relationship and you cannot ...
1 January 2020

Why is my boyfriend acting so badly to what he saw on my phone?

Jo Howarth says: First of all I am sending you love for such a difficult situation. You cannot make your boyfriend do or feel anything he is not comfortable doing ...