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5 September 2016

Why has my boyfriend become distant since he got a new job?

Hi Mia, It's possible that he just needs a bit of time to let everything settle down. If this is quite new to him, he will be trying to fit ...
5 September 2016

My boyfriend smokes- but smoking is a deal breaker for me- should I break up with him?

Hi Amy, It's clear that the act of smoking puts you off, however it sounds like the lying has also affected your relationship. If he lied to you once about ...
5 September 2016

Why won't my partner's step daughter ask me about our wedding?

Hi Linda, It's possible that she has reservations about marriage if her own has ended in divorce. If it's only a recent split, then she might feel sad talking to ...
2 September 2016

Our sex life is awful- should I marry him?

Hi Bride-to-be, It sounds like this recent dry spell in your sex life has had a massive effect on both of you but in different ways. It seems that it ...
30 August 2016

Why is my disabled partner verbally abusive towards me?

Hi Val, It sounds like he is struggling to cope with his new disability and taking it out on you. His words are probably more of a reflection of his ...
24 August 2016

What should I do if my breasts no longer feel sexual?

Hi Fern, Firstly, you are worrying about a problem that hasn't even happened yet so try not to let it dampen your spirits while you're trying and just enjoy sex ...
22 August 2016

My partner works away and I enjoy the distance between us- what's wrong with me?

Hi Steph, It sounds like you might be one of those couples who thrive in a long distance relationship. For some couples it doesn't work but if you enjoy being ...
22 August 2016

My husband and I want different things from retirement- what should I do?

Hi Beth, It's possible that your partner might be happy to do these things but is not good at being the one to instigate and organise them. Perhaps you could ...
19 August 2016

Am I being too friendly with the customers at work?

Hi Monica, As much as you have a responsibility to be the first point of contact and as helpful as you can be, there are limits to what you should ...
18 August 2016

How can I accept my partner's love?

Hi Shelley, I would advise you to go to your doctor and ask for a referral to a counsellor or seek one out privately. It sounds like you are still ...
18 August 2016

I'm married but have a crush on my best friend- what can I do to make these feelings stop?

Hi Lucy, As with crushes at any age or any stage of your life, it should pass. You have already acknowledged what it is so it will likely fade away ...
18 August 2016

I'm married but I kissed my work colleague- what should I do?

Hi Sharon, Often when couples have been together for a while, the laughing and joking reduces when the responsibilities and pressures grow. The flirting, the flattery and the compliments can ...
17 August 2016

My childhood crush likes me now- should I date him?

Hi Dilemma Girl, If you have moved on and no longer find him attractive or feel a connection then it might be kinder to tell him that you want to ...
17 August 2016

He slept with someone else while we were on a break- should I forgive him?

Hi Jenny, If he genuinely thought that your intentions were not real the first time, then this could explain why he looked elsewhere if he needed to feel physically close ...
17 August 2016

Is he interested in me or not?

Hi Everlyn, It might help you to try and get him to commit to a time, location and date rather than just a casual promise of meeting up. That way ...
16 August 2016

What has happened to my sex drive?

Hi Emma, There are many reasons for lack of libido in women and one of these is coined post baby 'coolness' which can happen after childbirth. There are so many ...
16 August 2016

Why do I feel guilty for not sleeping with him?

Hi Confused, There is no specific pace a relationship is supposed to take- it's all dependent on what feels right for you both. If you aren't ready to sleep with ...
16 August 2016

Why can't I believe in myself the way he does?

Hi Sahra, The most important thing is you know that this partner is caring, genuine and loving and that he is different from the rest. You recognise that you might ...
15 August 2016

I'm lonely and not sure what to do about it- can you help?

Hi Sarah, It sounds like any time spent with your friends now needs to be planned in advance, to ensure you are all free. Perhaps you could instigate your next ...
15 August 2016

I'm not pregnant so why have I missed so many periods?

Hi Vanessa, It is possible that if you're stressed you can miss one or more periods. The body is sensitive to any disruptions to your normal routines and feelings. Stress ...
15 August 2016

Why won't my mum leave me alone to work at home?

Hi Anu, I would suggest thinking very carefully about marrying someone only to get away from your mother. Marriage should be about love and something you do when you're ready. ...
4 August 2016

Why have I got a rash in my pubic region?

Hi Anonymous, Waxing is generally better than shaving for reducing ingrown hairs in the pubic region, however, it's still possible to have a few in that area post waxing. Are ...
3 August 2016

My partner's worried that I've left my house to my daughter in my will- what should I do?

Hi Philip, If it's legally your house- you are entitled to give it to whomever you want in your will. Many parents will act in the interests of their child ...
2 August 2016

Why am I so turned on by raincoats?

Hi Peter, Perhaps your wife is not keen because it's an unusual thing to be turned on by. It's possible she isn't aware of how passionate you are. Perhaps you ...