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15 May 2018

I've Recently Ended An 11 Year Relationship- Where Can I Meet New Women?

Our Resident Real Fairy Godmother Michelle Zelli answers one of our reader dilemmas: Dear Natalie, It can be a shock to the system when we step into the big wide dating ...
10 May 2018

Why Won't My Partner Help Me With The Cleaning?

Hi Paige, It's possible that if he grew up in a house where his mum or sister cleaned that he expects the same from you. If you would like it ...
9 May 2018

Why Am I Stuck Working Night Shifts?

Hi Kate, You legally have to give your employee a reference if they leave. It might be short and sweet but she has to give you a reference. If this does ...
4 May 2018

She Needs Space-How Long Should I Leave It Until I Approach?

Hi Rich, Perhaps once you decide to meet up with her you could explain why you have been so preoccupied. Perhaps she thought that this is what it would be like ...
4 May 2018

How Can I Give Him The Space He Needs Without Being A Doormat?

Hi Harriet, Even if he wants to be with you- leaving his wife will still come as a huge adjustment as his life is about to change dramatically so he ...
4 May 2018

Why Has He Asked For Space While I'm Sick?

Hi Margaret, Your partner should be with you in sickness and in health, whether you have exchanged vows or not. It is one of the unwritten rules of relationships; he should ...
23 April 2018

He Said He Dad Doubts About Our Relationship- Should I Give Him A Second Chance?

Hi Vet Student, It sounds like being in a long distance relationship has had its ups and downs for you both, especially while you've not been able to travel to ...
28 March 2018

Why Don't We Have Sex Anymore?

Hi Sage, If your sex drive is the same as it always was, it sounds like the answer might lie with your partner. How are you currently broaching the subject? ...
10 August 2017

Why Is My Partner So Lazy?

Hi Sarah, Moving in with someone can bring up some teething problems at first, however if it's fairly new, then you might be able to nip things in the bud ...
20 June 2017

He's A Geek- But I Like Him- What Should I Do?

Maybe instead of asking him out, you should get to know him as friends. You might then, be able to tell what he thinks of you, and to have some ...

2 June 2017

How Can I Help My Grandson To Be Happy?

Hello Della, It sounds like you all being under the same roof is causing a lot of friction. You and your husband are trying to get through your divorce and ...
11 April 2017

Is It Ok To Grieve For A Pet?

Hi Jasmine, It’s completely normal to grieve over a pet that has passed away. Pets are one of the family and love you without judgement like people often do, so sometimes ...
6 April 2017

Should I Contact Her After 30 Years To Say Sorry?

Hi Stu, Perhaps the reason you have not put this to bed is because she said she would think about what you had every day and maybe you are still doing ...
30 March 2017

Am I Being Controlling In My Relationship?

Hi Catherine, It is understandable that you are uneasy about your partner meeting up with her ex, but even more so when she has caused some upset in your relationship in ...
30 March 2017

How Can I Stop My Friend Controlling Our Friendship Group?

My first piece of advice would be to talk to someone the next time you are angry with them rather than text. There is no sense of tone or any ...
30 March 2017

Why Can't I Control My Attraction For My Married Guy Friend?

You have taken the first step by admitting that you know it’s wrong. Well, I say that, it’s not wrong to be attracted to him. But you clearly believe that ...
30 March 2017

Why Do I Try To Control My Boyfriend?

Hi Ashleigh, It sounds like you believe you have a good thing and want to hold onto it tight. There is nothing wrong with appreciating what you have, which can ...
23 February 2017

Why Is My Partner Texting Sex Workers?

Hi Anonymous, Although you say that the relationship seems perfect, there is usually some doubt in the partnership. This will cause us to act suspiciously. I’m assuming this is not ...
13 February 2017

Why Does My Husband Prefer To Play On His Computer Than Spend Time With Me?

Yin / Tyler Men and women think differently about situations such as this. Men think about providing for the home, so by working, he feels he has filled his quota ...
13 February 2017

My Boyfriend Has Naked Pictures Of His Ex On His Computer, Am I Allowed To Be Upset?

Hi Selina, It must have been alarming to find naked pictures of a woman on your partner's computer but it sounds like you felt an extra jolt when you realised ...
6 February 2017

How Can I Get Past The Guilt Of My Break-Up?

Hi Catalina,  Firstly I would ask you the reasons why you want him back when you admit you were miserable with him, and all he did was irritate you? I suspect ...
24 January 2017

Why don't I believe my boyfriend when he compliments me?

Hi Georgia, If you are still haunted by the comments from pervious boyfriends when they said things to your face and something different behind your back, this will inevitably impact ...
20 January 2017

I've got a talent for making music- what should I do about it?

Hi Damonte, I would suggest putting some of your work on You Tube. A lot of artists have been discovered this way- take Justin Bieber for example and look how successful ...
20 January 2017

Should I serenade him with my music?

Hi Jay, If you talked about the singing thing before he said he didn’t want it to go any further, then perhaps this would not bring him back to you. It ...
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