Would You Check Your Partner's Emails?
Jools Oliver admitted over the weekend that she will check her husband Jamie Oliver’s texts, tweets and emails to keep tabs on what’s going on in his life.
Samantha Brick has now said that Jools is right to check in on her husband, and that she does exactly the same and sees nothing wrong with it.
Marriage entitles you both to share your life and all aspects of it with each other, but does that really mean that you can snoop through each other’s personal emails, texts and mail? Is it so wrong to be allowed a private life, even one that excludes your partner?
When asked about her husband’s dealings with other women, Jools said, “Yeah, I’ll check his email. I’ll check his Twitter. I’ll check his phone. Everything seems fine. He says I’m a jealous girl, but I think I’m fairly laid-back, considering.”
Considering what? What happens behind closed doors is none of my business, but judging from the devotion Jools and Jamie have for each other, I’m pretty sure he’s never given her any reason to doubt him when it comes to his commitment.
Samantha Brick has said that she keeps a little black book full of her husband’s passwords for his phone and email account.
She said, “To be honest, I don’t really need to glance at the combinations of numbers and letters in that book anymore; I know each and every security code off by heart.”
She continues to defend her actions by saying that it isn’t her husband, Pascal, that she doesn’t trust, but rather other women.
This is ridiculous because, as we all know, it takes two to have an affair. Despite Samantha saying it’s other women she doesn’t trust, there must be a small part of her that doesn’t trust her husband enough to let him shake off any women that may come preying.
For those that check their husband’s emails, texts and post and say that they live in a happy marriage, I’m sorry but I don’t believe you.
If the thing that makes you happy is proving to yourself that your husband loves you whilst completely undermining his commitment then there’s something not quite right there.
You have to think, what makes a women want to check in on her husband’s personal life in the first place?
If you’re confident in your relationship then you wouldn’t even consider checking. Something must spark the need for you to look into his personal life.
Instinct can be a very powerful thing, but even the notion that you want to check his emails and texts screams out that something isn’t right here.
Once you start, you won’t stop and one day you may just get a nasty surprise when your suspicions, conscious or not, are proven right.
Cara Mason @FemaleFirst_UK
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