Tucked up and warm with your partner- bliss!
Today is National Roof Over Your Head Day, where we remember those who don’t have this forgotten luxury- those who are living on the streets with only a cardboard box for shelter. As an extension of thanksgiving we look to this so called basic thing we take for granted and why we shouldn’t.
We look at the ups and downs of cohabitation and why we should be thankful for the simplest of things in our relationships.
Now, we all know that living in close quarters can really rock the boat sometimes with your partner. They might not help with cleaning and washing, they might leave their things around for you to pick up or set so many alarms to get themselves up on a morning that you lose an hour out of your night’s sleep. When it comes down to it, you are in a much more privileged position than a lot of other couples. With the rise of house prices and cost of living, the amount of couples finding it financially viable to get a house together is getting smaller and smaller.
When I tell people that I have a mortgage with my partner, people look me as if I’m an alien. It’s not an expectation for twenty somethings to have a mortgaged house. Renting, perhaps but nothing more than that. Many couples are still living separately at their parents, trying to maintain a long distance relationship or where they see each other once or twice a week.
Before anything else going on in your partnership, if you are able to put a roof over both of your heads this is a big achievement. At this time of year people worry about whether they have bought enough gifts for their loved ones or enough food to fill their bellies to excess on Christmas day, however, we neglect to look at the simpler things that we have during the festive period.
Living with the love of your life, everyday annoyances aside, is a good thing. You have your own little bubble to talk about ‘couply’ things that no-one else will ever know, you build it together by buying things jointly, you put your own blood sweat and tears into making it a place where you feel comfortable and safe.
Living together tells a story; ‘remember when we painted that celling?’ Or ‘can you remember what it was like when we moved in?’ The roof over your head contains memories of the good times and bad. As long as you can laugh about the times when you slept separately after an argument or when one of you stormed about the house to make a point that you were angry at something your partner had done, then it will be ok. It’s a big box full of snapshots of your time together painted into the walls and engrained in the carpet.
So on National Roof Over Your Head Day remember that living together is not all bad and that really that is the best Christmas present any couple could have.
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