By Love Mentor, Elizabeth Sullivan (www.lovementor.com)
If you’ve just come back holiday you may have found that, like many couples, it was a trying time. Don’t worry, it’s not just you! Couples often aren’t used to spending so much time together and have different priorities for their precious time away from work. How can you make sure that you enjoy your next holiday and don’t have the holiday from hell?
Make the right choice: Everyone has their own ideas of what makes a great holiday; arguments can easily happen when you don’t agree on this. Be careful with the holiday you choose, make sure it is something you are both happy with that incorporates both of your interests. If you are into history and your partner is into beaches, somewhere like Rhodes would be a great compromise as you can do a mixture of both. Another option might be a resort which offers different activities, so you can both find things to do that you enjoy. Or a tour with a group of people if one of you is very outgoing and loves interacting with people.
Delay arguments: If you are having a conversation and it is heading into dangerous territory try to suggest postponing the conversation until you get back from your holiday, after all you don’t want to ruin your precious time away. By stopping an argument in its tracks you often don’t bother picking it up again at a later date as it no longer seems relevant.
Don’t feel you have to spend every minute of every day together: If normally you lead busy lives and are not used to spending all your time together, allow some time for you to both do your own thing. If you want to go off and have a facial or a massage and he wants to go and watch sport then go with it. It can be a good idea to have some space when you are on holiday. Once you have had some time on your own, you are both often in the mood to really appreciate that time with your partner.
Avoid the common arguments: Couples often argue about the same things over and over again, be aware of what irritates your partner and avoid triggering arguments where possible. Common irritations on holiday include:
Getting to the airport on time - Allow yourselves plenty of time to get there if it stresses your partner to be rushing.
Time spent getting ready - If your partner gets impatient when you take a long time to get ready for dinner, be considerate of that; perhaps you could do some of your preparations earlier in the day i.e. shaving legs, washing or blow drying hair, or perhaps you could start getting ready earlier so he doesn’t get hungry while he waits around for you to get ready.
Navigating roads in different countries - Rows can break out over map reading; make an effort to stay calm and be patient with your partner.
Spending too much money -Think of ways you can enjoy yourself that don’t cost as much, taking a picnic to the beach and watching a sunset might be nicer than sitting in a stuffy expensive restaurant.