As the saying goes, the best way to get over someone is to get under another. But after a long term relationship, it can be hard to think about even getting to know someone else after leaving something with someone you knew so well.
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Still, jumping into bed with a stranger after a boozy night out is not necessarily the best way to boost your self esteem, however going out on dates, as in being wined and dined, can really help get over the grieving process.
The best way to get over a break up is to get out there and be sociable, although ice cream movie nights are acceptable for the first few days at least. You’ll find by getting out there back on the scene that actually there are other people out there who find you attractive and interesting, and soon you’ll be preoccupied by responding to flirty texts, rather than sending needy emotional messages to your ex.
But how do you get back out there when you’ve been out of the game for so long? Here are some tips on getting out there and dating like a pro.
1. Accept social invitations – Guys from work going for after work drinks? Tag along. If you can grab some friends to come out and hit the town, better still. Get your best clobber on, walk with confidence and get out there, don’t stand in the corner talking to one another, if you’re in a bar, make an effort to make friendly conversation with others around you. Any opportunities you can get to get out of the house and meet new people, take it!
2. Organise social gatherings – If none of your friends have anything planned, organise something. Reach out to people you haven’t seen in a while, set up an event on Facebook, arrange a dinner party, a picnic in the park, encourage your friends to bring their friends along too.
3. Try online dating – Online dating can be an absolute minefield, but by putting yourself out there you are increasing your chances of being approached. Even if you don’t end up meeting someone online, you can practice your flirting conversation skills.
4. Hire a matchmaker – Know what you’re looking for? A matchmaker much like a recruiter can help headhunt your ideal match, weeding through the time wasters and getting you out on dates sooner rather than later.
5. Try speed dating – Instead of working towards getting a date, you can jump straight in and have 10-20 mini dates in one night, and contrast to popular belief, they’re not all full of losers!
7. Get down the gym – After long relationships, we often find we’ve put on those comfort pounds. Get down the gym, not only will you feel great, but will look great, making you appear more attractive and confident. Plus you’ll be surrounded by fit men. If there’s no other reason to go, surely that’s a good enough one?!
8. If you like a guy let him know – Seems like an obvious one, but often women think men are mind readers. Sometimes the one thing that’s stopping them from asking you out, is they’re not sure you’re interested at all. So if you’re out and you see a guy you like don’t pounce on him and drag him home, but a friendly smile, a few glances and good eye contact can go a long way.
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