The over 50s have a message to younger couples- so take heed and you won't be making one of these lists when you hit the same age.

Relationships on Female First

Relationships on Female First

Treat others as you would wish to be treated- Think about how you want your partner to treat you and mimic that in how you approach them.

Never start smoking- You won't live as long together as you'd like to.

Stay in touch with those you love- A text or email if you're at work, a phone call or Skype if you're doing long distance.

Look after your teeth- No one wants to kiss someone who has bad oral hygiene.

Pay off your credit cards every month- If you chip away at it- your statement will eventually say zero and there's no better feeling as a couple than being debt free.

No one is in charge of your happiness except you- Don't rely on your partner to make you happy- you have it within you to make yourself happy- and if you're not- make the changes to achieve it.

Don't be a cheat- Infidelity is the one of the worst things you can do to a person.

Your loved one comes first- Friends come and go, your work is a means to an end- prioritise what really matters- the person you come home to every night.

Don't compare your life to other couples- Their grass may look greener but that's often because it's fake.

Spend less time online and more in the real world- Focus on each other and not your I-pads, phones, TVs and games consoles.

Don't waste time in a job you hate- Your unhappiness will only filter into your relationship.

Life isn't fair, but it's still good- You'll have your ups and downs but you have each other and that's what's most important.

Read more books- Rather than looking at your phones while you're laid next to one another in bed- read books- it will give you something to talk about.

Don't take yourself too seriously- Laugh- a lot with each other- to make up for the times when you can't.

Time is a great healer - Give each other space to heal and slowly but surely things will go back to normal if you're patient and kind.

Forgive and forget - Don't hold grudges- if you want an apology ask for one and then move on.

You don't have to win every argument - Sometimes you will be wrong and your partner will be right- you can't be right all the time.

Don't judge others - You live your life together the way you see fit and so do other couples- as long as it's right for the two people involved- there should be no room for judgement.

Never have children to save a relationship - If you have problems- talk to one another- go and see a therapist. Having children only gives you a new set of challenges you're not prepared for if you're not an effective team.

Follow your gut instinct, it's usually right- And if you both have the same gut instinct about something- chances are you should follow it.

No-one likes a know it all - You have your areas of expertise and so does your partner- learn from them and let them have their moment to shine.

Friendship is more important than sex in a relationship - If your sex life isn't as active as it used to be- ask yourself if you still love and enjoy your partner's company. If the answer is 'yes' you'll be ok.

If a relationship has to be secret, you shouldn't be in it - You should want to tell the world about your significant other and be proud to be with them.

Make new friends and be sociable - Spend time with each other and apart with your friends or people who share your passions.

Don't marry for money - You might have everything you think you want except the thing your heart desires the most- love.

Learn to love your looks - You are unique- embrace your differences- don't suppress them. This positive influence will only bounce off each other.

All that matters is that you are loved - Not money, not fast cars, not a big house or a fancy job. Those things can't love you back- a partner can.

Whatever doesn't kill you makes you stronger - If you're going through a hard time- you may think the world is against you- but it brings you closer and helps you cherish things when they're going well so much more.

Look after your skin- Make sure you both moisturise every day and apply sun tan lotion to each other on your holidays.

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