The first date: How to

1 October 2012

Everyone has a first date disaster story but by following these simple steps you should avoid any potential deal breakers and put yourself on the path to relationship righteousness.

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Dress To Impress

This seems like an obvious point to make but it’s crucial that you dress yourself right. You don’t want to give the impression that you’re trying too hard, more that you’re sexy and smouldering effortlessly.

Keep it smart casual with some jeans, a well fitted shirt and some killer heels. Don’t go crazy on the make-up either, no oompa loompa fake tan and no ridiculous fake eyelashes. Keep it simple and aim for the effortlessly fresh faced look.

Avoid A Hair Scare

It’s not only your outfit you should be paying attention to, your hair needs some TLC too. Again, play it down a little, no beehives or masses and masses of extensions.

Make sure it’s properly conditioned and has a smooth and sleek look to it, whether it’s waved, curled or straight.

Talk That Talk

Keep the conversation flowing, but also keep it light hearted. Talk about your interests and let the conversation flow naturally.

Do not talk about how you’ve already planned your dream weddings and are just waiting for the right man to place as the groom, that’s a deal breaker right there.

Read His Body Language

You don’t need to be a body language expert to tell whether someone likes you or not but it helps to know a little about what their actions mean. For example, if he’s licking his lips, it will usually be because his mouth is dry – a sign that he is nervous. Being nervous is a good thing as it means he wants to impress you.

Look at the eyes, they can tell you if he is lying. If he looks up and off to the left or right when he’s talking to you then he could be lying. It’s a sign that he’s concentrating harder which usually means he’s crafting a lie in his head.

After The Date

Don’t be too keen. If the date went well, then great! The chances are that he would feel the same, so don’t be bombarding him with texts and calls asking when you can meet up again.

The day after the date text him thanking him for a nice evening and say that you’d like to do it again, if you don’t hear back from him then at least you know where you stand.