It’s hard to imagine that talking to our partners about sex could be difficult when we share so much, but it’s true sometimes it can leave you feeling embarrassed, stressed or uncomfortable.
Our bodies are designed to feel stress and react to it; it keeps us alert and ready to avoid danger. But, when stress persists, problems, like erectile dysfunction, can occur in men. In a recent survey carried out by LloydsPharmacy Online Doctor, 24% of men have said they have problems getting aroused with 12% saying this is caused by stress.
Intimacy issues such as erectile dysfunction can have a major impact on relationships. With over 50% of men aged 40-70 experiencing erectile dysfunction, LloydsPharmacy Online Doctor has created a useful guide to help women speak to their male partners about coping with and managing erectile dysfunction that can be downloaded for free.
Despite being so common, openly discussing sexual health issues remains a difficult issue for many couples, however this can be the best way of resolving any associated distress, or even underlying causes. 14% of females believe that stress is causing their partner to have erectile dysfunction and a further 14% think it is stress related, this guide has been put together by doctors and offers some key tips to help you speak to your partner to make that difficult conversation a little easier.
Dr Tom Brett from LloydsPharmacy Online Doctor said “Men often feel ashamed or embarrassed of taking medication to increase their sexual performance, but it is important you stay sensitive and supportive. 15% of men said they would consider taking Viagra and not telling their partner, however this can show a lack of communication between the couple which will undoubtedly lead to further problems. Just remind yourself that it’s not your fault and doesn’t reflect badly on your attractiveness or your ability to please your partner in bed. It is a medical issue and one that very often can be easily solved with the right help. Try to initiate a discussion and encourage your partner to seek help.”
Dr Tom’s top tips
If your partner doesn’t want to talk to a GP face to face, there are many resources online for men’s health related queries that can ensure they still get the help they need without the need feel embarrassed.
If they’re not sure they have erectile dysfunction they can get a free online assessment with an NHS accredited doctor: https://onlinedoctor.lloydspharmacy.com/mens-health/erectile-dysfunction
Remember to do your own research too, it will ensure you are more helpful, constructive and supportive.
It is also important to choose your moment to talk to them, ensure your partner is comfortable, not stressed and not busy.
Erectile dysfunction can be a sign of potentially serious underlying medical conditions such as diabetes, high blood pressure, or heart disease. It is very important that your partner is screened for their condition especially if he is over 40.
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