Hi, I’ve recently been having some trouble with my boyfriend when it comes to him meeting my parents. We’ve been together for 6 months and were originally dating for 7 months prior to that. I’m 19 and he’s 27 and I’ve met his brothers, but I’ve not got around to meeting his parents, but it’s something I’m totally comfortable doing. When I bring up him meeting my parents he brings up that he has anxiety; and would rather we just bumped into them on the street as the first time they meet, rather than going out to eat. This is a fine idea hypothetically, but I can’t think of any time when we’d all be in the same place without dragging him somewhere to meet them and they all be oblivious to what I’ve set up. I just need some advice on where would be the best place for them to meet for the first time?? Thanks
Our Resident Real Fairy Godmother Michelle Zelli says:
It’s not unusual for ‘meet your parents’ arrangements to cause angst. Perhaps your boyfriend is setting up expectations of being judged and falling short, I wonder if he’s concerned they do not approve of him, or the age gap? Whilst I am usually a huge advocate of transparency, on this occasion a subtle influence of fate could be just the answer! If a pre-arranged meeting is too much for your boyfriend to handle why not explain to your folks the dilemma? Ask if they would be willing to arrange to ‘bump into’ you both whilst in The High Street, your local coffee shop or pub. Being honest about how much it would mean to you for them to get together could naturally result in both parties feeling relieved to meet in a relaxed and easy way. Your parents might be keen to get to know the man you’re dating and to pave the way for future get togethers, once the ice has been broken.
Do your best to relax around the subject, if you worry, people will pick up the vibe and it could fuel tension. Relax, keep visualising the meeting going really well and see yourself enjoying the connection with people you love - and having fun!
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