Hi Samantha,

Have you considered counselling? Relate offer a great service for couples who are struggling on their own and give a helping hand while you are going through a rough patch. There is impartial advice on offer here to give a fresh perspective on your relationship and what triggers your arguments.

If you both have different opinions on how you should spend your money this could be something that never goes away if neither of you is prepared to meet in the middle. With him spending a little more and you a bit less. Money problems are one of the main causes of arguments between couples. The real test comes after- how you deal with it and find resolution? Perhaps leaving is not the answer- maybe you need to stay and talk to him and try to work out a happy balance for your finances. Budgeting can be a huge help as this will give you something to work within and still have control over the spending. If both of you were heavy spenders then you could be in a lot of trouble with debt. It is good that one of you keeps a tight rein on the money so you have some if an unexpected event comes along. That said; you still need to enjoy life and special occasions.

Some couples thrive on a few arguments, however a relationship based on an argument every week could be an indicator that you are not meant to be. If you feel like this will be your relationship for the foreseeable future and that you will never be able to come together with a resolution, then it may be best to end it and move on.

Lucy x