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Sex and relationship expert Jessican Leoni said: “You are a lucky girl. You are only 18 and already feel that you have met the man of your dreams - so much so that you are planning the rest of your lives together. It sounds like you come from a great home with two loving parents. There are very few people out there with such an embarrassment of emotional riches at your age - be thankful that things have worked out so well for you.

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“The one problem you have is that your guy is from the wrong side of the tracks. You fear that your father in particular will never accept him because he is from the wrong city. You say that both your parents are ‘amazing people’. If that is the case, then all they will really want for you is that you are happy and in a good relationship and, frankly, who cares where your boyfriend is from? It staggers me that people still have this kind of prejudice but they do and we are going to have to deal with it. 

“I think there is no time to dwell and you should introduce your boyfriend to your parents as soon as possible. I would arrange a meeting with the four of you at your home and stress to your parents that you are madly in love and your boyfriend makes you very happy. You don’t need to say where he is from, though I don’t doubt that the subject will come up at some point. Hopefully, your parents will have got to know him first before they discover his geography and they will realise how petty and irrelevant their prejudices are. They will see how happy you make each other and that will allay any issues over where he is from. If his upbringing is still an issue, just keep hammering away. The more they see of your boyfriend, the more they are going to like him. And hopefully in eventually accepting him they will reflect on their own prejudices and they will judge people in future on how they are and not where they are from.

“If you still don’t get acceptance over time and they refuse to accept him based on this geographical prejudice - which, let’s not forget, is basically a form of racism: judging people not on what they are like but on the randomness of where they were born - then they are going to need to be subjected to some tough love. Spend more time at your boyfriend’s. Don’t cut them out of your life but show them how they are suffering by not being more open-minded. Confront their prejudices and hopefully they will learn and become more accepting. I’m sure your parents are ‘amazing people’ - they will need to show the love and compassion which has no doubt been in abundance during your childhood but is sadly missing when it comes to your boyfriend simply because of the place where he was born.”

Jessica is a sex and relationship expert for the dating site, IllicitEncounters.com 

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