Kirsty asks :
Trust Issues? I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years...and for about a year now i have been suffering with jelousy and trust issues. My boyfriend hasnt done anything major for me not to trust him but its got to the point where i always want to be around him so there is no chance he can cheat on me. i dont go out with friends anymore, and i get stressed when i have to work and he doesn't, because im worried of what he will be getting up to. I'm only 20, and should be out having fun. I really love him and dont want the relationship to end. Please help. Kirsty.
Yin replies
Yin / Tyler
You say he has not done anything major to make you jealous, but he must have done something to make you suspicious? Can you pinpoint what it is? Sometimes we project our jealousy onto others if we are feeling insecure about ourselves. Are you a confident person? If you feel worthy of being with him then you should feel more trusting, or you will constantly be assuming that he wants someone better in looks or personality.
Yang replies
Yang / Lydia
It is impossible to keep track of everything that he is doing all the time. The relationship will suffer some problems if you keep showing your lack of trust for him, especially if as you say he is not showing signs of being unfaithful. Every person in relationship will be attracted to someone else while they are being faithful, it is human nature, so if its sideways glances at another girl or passing a comment at a picture of a girl, this is normal. How many times do you look t other men and feel an attraction to them, and not have any intention of cheating?
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