I found out my best friend has been texting another man behind her fiance’s back.
She basically cried and sobbed down the phone about how bad her relationship was.
She asked if she could stay at mine for a few days so I let her and she basically used me so that she could text this other guy without being caught.
She went back home to talk with her partner and she hasn't bothered texting me with an update it's been 3 days!
So I assume she worked things out with him.
Now I feel conflicted and don't agree with what she has done and I don't feel like I should be her maid of honour anymore. What should I do? Xxx
Sex and relationship expert Jessican Leoni said: “Your friend does sound like a bit of a handful. Getting married is a stressful business and lots of people who have doubts before their big day, put those issues behind them and go on to have happy marriages. Pre-wedding wobbles are a common occurrence and they are causing her to behave really selfishly around you. You are right to be offended by her behaviour. She stays at your house for a few days and then ghosts you for three days as soon as she is back in her fiance’s arms. I would be just as angry as you and questioning whether she deserved to have me as her maid of honour.
“The only way you are going to resolve this is by having a proper heart-to-heart with your mate. Sit her down and ask her straight: do you really want to marry this man? If she is already effectively cheating on him before they have walked down the aisle by slagging him off to another man, it doesn’t bode well for the marriage. If she has resolved these issues in her head and still wants to go ahead with the wedding then that is her decision and you should respect it. She is probably making a big mistake but she cannot say she wasn’t warned. There is only so much you can do to protect your friend from her own mistakes.
“Finally, you need to talk to your friend about your own friendship. You need to tell her that she has treated you appallingly and you have been badly hurt by her behaviour. If she apologises and says she has been a fool because of pre-wedding nerves, I would cut her some slack, accept the apology and throw yourself into being a brilliant maid of honour. If she is not apologetic and once again puts her feelings above your own and dismisses your complaint, I would have serious qualms about being her maid of honour. I would walk away at this point because I suspect that the marriage is going to be a disaster and you are better off without her.”
Jessica is a sex and relationship expert for the dating site, IllicitEncounters.com
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