I Love My Ex

15 April 2007

anonymous asks :

ive been going out with this guy for about a month, and hes absolutly crazy about me. i like him too, but not as much. he's the first guy iv gone out with that has actually liked me this much, and i no that he's not faking it and he's compeletly sincere. but the thing is, im still in touch with my ex who i really loved and he asked to get back with me, but i said no because i was already in a relationship, but we'r still on good terms. he's the only guy i'v ever loved and i had really big hopes for us but he treated me badly. but now that i think back to it, it was not completely his fault. the thing is i no he's changed but i no that if we get back together then he wouldnt treat me as good as my current boyfriend who is truely decent. but he has regretted losing me. im really confused and havent got a clue who to go with.

Yin replies

You need to trust your heart in situations like this. If while with you current boyfriend you are thinking about another man, I don't think it is wise for you to stay with him. Especially as he is so in to you, it is cruel to lead him on the way that you are. Even if you decide not to get back with your ex, I would definately say to you to look at your life and perhaps spend some time being single. If your ex is definately the man that you want to be with, then you'd be foolish not to give it another go. Just be careful and remember that you have broken up once before. You don't want to ruin your chances with someone who likes you so much, for your ex, who has already ruined things once before.

Yang replies

Ask yourself why things broke up between you and your ex and remember how much pain it caused you before you do anything. It is not rare to still have feelings for an ex when in a new relationship, but most people suppress them and move on, remembering how it didn't work. If you know that this man will not treat you as well as your current boyfriend, but still want to be with him however, then perhaps you should be. Don't be so cruel to the man that you are with at the moment, and finish things with him sooner rather than later, you're only setting him up for a big fall that he doesn't deserve.