Acting In Love Can Lead To The Real Thing

Acting In Love Can Lead To The Real Thing

Some of us long to fall in love and live happily ever after. Now, according to new research, acting like you’re in love can actually encourage feels of love to grow.

Professor Richard Wiseman has conducted a study to see if behaviour can lead to emotion, just like emotions can lead to behaviour.

The Professor of the University of Hertfordshire took 100 participants and set up a speed dating environment in attempt to prove his theory.

During the speed dating, the couples were encouraged to act as though they were already in love with one another, but gazing into each other’s eyes, holding hands and whispering into one another’s ears.

When questioned at the end of the experiment, 45 per cent of those who had acted in love said that they wished to see each other again.

Professor Wiseman told the Daily Telegraph, “This is a remarkable finding. Just as people feel happier when they force their face into a smile, so pairs of people behaving as if they find one another attractive became emotionally close.

“Behaving like you are in love can lead to actually falling in love. People are always going about positive thinking when this suggest positive action is just as valid.”

Harvard academic Dr Robert Epstein has studied arranged marriages for eight years, and through his own research has found that positive thinking can work when it comes to falling in love.

He has found that with arranged marriages, where couples initially have to act in love, tend to last longer as the couple falls deeper in love as the time goes on.

This is compared to those who marry after knowing each other a long period of time, as their love steadily decreases as the years go on.

So, if you’re looking for love then maybe acting as though you and a potential partner are already there is the way forward and the key to a happy relationship!


Cara Mason @FemaleFirst_UK

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