zibusiso zondo asks :
im a young man aged 23 .i &my girlfrend hve been 2gther 4 2yrs but she seems 2 b attracted to other guys hw du i knw she really loves me& hw can i restrict her for getting interested in other guys? . i really want to marry her!.
Yin replies
Yin / Tyler Hello there,
Everyone is attracted to other people than thier partner as we a programmed this way, i am sure you find other people attractive to? Have you told her how much her ogling at other men hurts you? The chances are if she did she would dial it back. She is with you, if she did want to leave, she could at any point, but she hasn't. Have faith in your relationship and be open with her about your feelings. It is not worth bottling them up, you need to know where each other stands.
Yang replies
Yang / Lydia
Have you tried to try her at her own game first? Why don't you make eyes at other girls and see how she likes it? If she reacts badly then you can use it as an example of how you have been feeling. Sometimes it's one rule for one and one rule for another. If she does not like you looking openly at others then she should not be either.
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