Sarah asks :
I started dating one of my bosses a few months ago but it wasn't the right time for us. then recently I moved to his department so now I spend a lot of time working with him. a couple of weeks ago we ended up sleeping with each other once again, but what seemed to be a one time thing. until I found out he told one of my friends he would have a relationship with me if only he wasn't my boss. My feelings haven't gone for him as I still love being in his company and the sex is great! so we spent the night together a few days ago without sleeping together but since the contact has been minimal and I am unsure what this means. Is it him keeping me at arms length because he is my boss or is at sex only thing?
Yin replies
Hi Sarah, thanks for writing in.
It could be both. That said, he has already admitted that he likes you and that he would want to be an item if you were not working together, so this is a barrier for him.
In terms of the sex, worrying about whether your job is at risk can sometimes be a rush if you are quite a reckless person but it can also be a bit of a libido killer for a lot of people. The only way to find out for sure is to ask him or you will be left hanging and feeling used.
Yang replies
If it was just the sex then you can move on and work together without getting too involved with him. If it is that he is keeping you at arm’s length then this is understandable given what is at stake here.
Love in the workplace is not unheard of, but figure out what you both want before taking the risk with your career.
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