Welshman asks :
Hi Lucy,
I am an adult 51 year old male. Nearly every day I feel horny and sometimes I have to masturbate until I come. But, even though it's perfectly natural to masturbate I do have a question. My question is: Is this normal and should I just 'do it' whenever I do feel horny/randy? Thanks.
Hi Welshman,
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Everyone has differing libidos- some people at your age never masturbate, others do it sometimes, some men may have found a decline in their desire to masturbate and others may be just like you and have an appetite for it every day. Much like when you were younger, everyone has a different definition of what is normal for them. There is no such thing as normal for every man.
What I would say is as long as it's not affecting your work or your social life then this may just be the norm for you.
If you feel it is causing problems in your professional life or when you are with your friends- i.e. you feel you have to masturbate in the bathroom during the working day or you often cut a night out short with your friends to go home, then perhaps it might be worth seeking some help. There is a time and a place so you might not always be able to masturbate when the yearning kicks in.
Ideally it is good to have a balance in life between lots of things you enjoy, however if you find this is taking over your thoughts and affecting how you do other things then perhaps seeking some professional assistance might help you to readdress this balance.
You haven't mentioned a partner so if you are single- perhaps your body is telling you to put this high libido to use and look for someone who has the same sort of drive as you but who can also give you some companionship at the same time.
It might be worth seeking out your local dating scene to find someone who is compatible with you both in and out of the bedroom. That is if you do feel you would like to share this passion with someone else.
If not then all I would say is as long as it's not detrimental to other areas of your life, it sounds like it might just feel right for you.
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