Jasi asks :
Hi Lucy,
I have never experienced orgasm with him inside already being married for 7 years. Is the problem me or him?
Hi Jasi,
Is it a problem with him or me?
Most women don’t experience orgasm with their partners inside them. It doesn’t mean that there is a problem with either of you. It’s simply down to the way women are built. A man’s most sensitive part is constantly being aroused during penetrative sex, for many women it’s not. Some lucky ladies can come through g-spot stimulation, however for most, it’s through stimulation of the clitoris.
You cannot rely on penetrative sex to get you off this way, because unfortunately it’s outside of the body. If you regularly masturbate and know what you like, why not put some lube on your fingers, while he is on top and pleasure yourself so you can climax together?
If you are in another position, say cowgirl or doggy style, he can do this for you- it all depends how he is at getting you off this way. If this is new perhaps spend some time on foreplay and get him to stimulate your clitoris to find out exactly how you like it to be touched. Every woman is different and it’s worth him finding out what you like first before trying to do it while you are having sex.
It takes a bit of practice to synchronise your levels of pleasure and it takes communication to come together. Make noises of tell him when you are close and get him to do the same for you, so you can slow things down or crank it up and eventually you should be able orgasm together.
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