Carrie Hughes asks :
I was dating this guy for about a year. He was just out of a serious relationship and we clicked really well. He always made it clear however that he didn't want to commit. The problem is I fell for him. We since called it a day and he is off enjoying the single life. Should i ever tell him how I feel?
Yin replies
You say he was out of a serious relationship, but you dated him for a year – which by a lot of people’s standards would be serious too. I think though, to be fair, it’s easy to fall for someone, especially when you know they don’t really want to commit.
It makes falling all the more passionate because you know you can’t have them. In all honesty, you have to do what feels right, say what you feel and have no regrets. At least you could move on if you knew he wasn’t about to change his mind.
Chances are though, he won’t. Only tell him how you feel if it’s just so that you get it off your chest and to just test the waters – don’t expect it to make him see the light.
Yang replies
No, no, no, no, no, no, no. Unless you want to come away feeling like you just lost all your Girl Power.
Any guy that says he doesn’t want to commit needs to be left to his own devices – be it an excuse, delusion or an error of judgment in your eyes. If he’s enjoying the single life, leave well alone.
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