You only have to tap into google "how to spy on your man" and hundreds of articles pop up, most with simples lists of instructions for you to follow and successfully spy on your partner.
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My personal favourite was "How to catch your man cheating with spy equipment". Suddenly my head was filled with crazed, paranoid women lurking behind the row of bushes in their front garden peering into their mans car with night vision goggles and binoculars. Is the only way you're ever going to build trust in your partner through bugging his mobile phone and installing spy cams in his office at work?
There's apparantly spy shops where all sorts of devices are sold, some which let you install a secret sat nav into a car and there are even phone applications that let you connect to people and know their constant whereabouts. Women are turning from devoted girlfriends into Tom Cruise wannabes. And what good would it do monitoring your boyfriends every move; ignorance can sometimes be bliss.
If the signs are that obvious your blokes cheating, surely it won't take you to visually watch him do for you to realise he needs to be shown the door. If you're considering taking up the suggestion of hiring a private investigater, surely there's a wider problem to address. Your instincts might be right or you might just be on mission impossible, it's hard to know when there's no trust in a relationship.
As often pointed out to us women, the roles can be reversed and men can be more insecure and paranoid than their girlfriends. So do you give your partner any signs that you might be out cheating?
What about if you were to tell a tiny lie to your boyfriend about not seeing hime because you're staying in and doing work whilst really your friends were there with you? Technically you're not telling the truth, and he's unlikely to be upset you want to see your friends, it would be easy to just say what we're doing but you don't. Does that make you untrustworthy?
The key to a successful relationship is unknown and rather than fretting about telling the odd little white lie or being paranoid about your mans assistant, hard work and dedication to a relationship is often the best prescribed medicine. It's not useful reading how to trust somebody or being told the signs for cheating because any slight hint and you'll be crippled with worry.
Nobody can tell you how to build trust and only personal experiences and a committed relationship will really test whether you have what it takes to be able to trust somebody else. But my advice, would be to try and avoid getting out the binoculars, because if you're wrong about your man, you're sure going to cause a lot of conflict.
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