Dan asks :

Hi Lucy,

My girlfriend of one year has recently updated her Facebook job status since starting a new job. Her relationship status stays the same- "married to her friend" (she's female). I've asked her this before and she's just told me that "Facebook isn’t important, nor should it make any difference in the relationship.” 

Everyone knows were together since our profile pics are of each other, she’s put photos up and posts about us, etc. Should I say anything else? My parents have advised me "it’s only Facebook, doesn’t matter, and everyone knows you’re together anyhow.

 

Hi Dan,

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A lot of importance is placed on a Facebook relationship status now. It's the modern way of telling people you're with someone or available. That said by not using it doesn't necessarily mean that your girlfriend loves you any less or is ashamed of your relationship.

If she links up with you by confirming you are in a relationship, this gives her 'friends' the opportunity to look at your profile too. Perhaps she is trying to protect you from prying eyes. Whatever she is posting is what she wants the world to see and know and maybe she likes having that bit of control over her life online.

People tend to be less interested in jobs and more interested in relationships online so maybe she knows that people won't ask lots of questions when it comes to her line of work.

If your relationship is strong behind the scenes that's what matters, however if your relationship is struggling right now, then Facebook is the least of your worries. If you think things need work then put your focus into that and not into other people's opinions of your pairing.


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