Anonymous asks:

My partner grinds his teeth when he is touching me, as if he hates it. 

And he won’t let me touch him at all.

We never have penetrive sex ever.

 

Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni: “I think there is a fairly simple solution to this problem. Can you just ask him if he is into you and enjoys sex with you? If the answer is yes, then at least you have issues that you can explore. If the answer is no, move on.

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“Let’s assume it is a yes - well, let’s explore those issues. The grinding of the teeth - I grind my teeth subconsciously in my sleep. I wouldn’t read too much into this. I don’t think the grinding of his teeth is indicative of negative thoughts/feelings when he is touching you. Are you sure that he is aware that he is doing it? It could just be him displaying nerves. Have you asked him to stop and pointed out that it makes you feel insecure. If you haven’t, please do. I suspect he has no idea this is bothering you.

“‘He won’t let me touch him at all and we never have penetrative sex ever.’  You need to look into the deeper reasons for this behaviour. Is your partner sexually inexperienced/a virgin? Has he been scarred by a traumatic previous sexual experience? You would be surprised how many men wrongly think they have a problem with impotence because of a previous sexual failure. You need to coax out of your partner exactly what is wrong and find out if there is any way you can help. Take things slowly and show him just how much fun sex can be - by tentatively and gently touching him while he is pleasuring you. Hopefully his confidence will build and you can explore more intimate sex - oral sex and then intercourse.

“Going back to my initial question - is he really into you? Well, if the answer is no, this explains his sexual reticence. At least you will know where you stand, you can move on and stop wasting your time with this guy.”

Jessica is a sex and relationship expert for the dating site, IllicitEncounters.com 


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