susan asks :

I have been with my boyfrend for 16 years ,recently he got a flat of his own incase anything happend to me and he had knowere to live ,we are both 62 ,recently we whent on holiday for 2 weeks his x was moving home abefor we went and he helped her move they are just recently devorced when we got back I learned that he had let her stay in his flat he didn't care what I said about it he just said he was doing her a favour ,he has said in the past that she's his best friend ,he's cheated on her many times even got a child to someone else ,he said he gets viagra off a friend and sells them but says he don't take them becouse they give him a headach ,but I keep findinf them plus half ones ,I found out he cheated once at the begining of our relationship but I haven't found anything out since ,he's never said I love you ,never cuddled me (unless with sex) and he never kisses me (only now and then with sex) could you please tell me what you think ,thank you

Yin replies

The fact that he said he didn’t care about what you thought of his ex staying over with him, demonstrates that he shows little respect for your feelings or your relationship. Most women would find this difficult and if you expressed a dislike for it, it really should not have happened.

 

If he has cheated on your once, there is nothing to say he won’t do this again. If he does not express his feelings for you in the form of a kiss or a cuddle, which is not a lot to ask when you are dating someone, then he is not showing that he is concerned with your feelings at all. 

Yang replies

The trust can be difficult when someone has already cheated on you and has a history of it. If you are convinced that he has not cheated on you again, try talking to him and tell him how his lack of affection is not making you feel very loved and your concerns about his new relationship with his ex.

 

If there is any doubt in your mind that he has been going behind your back then get out now, you are worth more than to be cheated on once, never mind twice. 


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