Anonymous asks:

So there is this guy I went on a date with the other day, and it went great really. I thought we had clicked, we spoke for a few days then out of the blue he said he didn't want this to go anywhere, I really like him though. I’m also a singer and he kept saying he wanted to hear my voice, do you think serenading him by surprise is a good idea or creepy?


Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “I am sorry if I sound negative but I think that the idea of serenading him is a little creepy and, more importantly, won’t get you what you want: another date and a possible romance. The whole world of dating has changed so much in the last few years due to the explosion of the dating sites and apps like Tinder. Whereas once they were seen as fairly niche activities, now everyone is dating online and not feeling the slightest bit embarrassed about it (which is only right!). Single people have a plethora of options when it comes to be finding the right date and a lot of people are grazing to their heart’s content and going on multiple dates at the same time. I know of some guys who are dating seven nights a week. I suspect that this fella is a prolific dater and he is keeping his options open. You could tell him that he is the man of your dreams, you could serenade him like Taylor Swift, but I suspect that this won’t stop him from swiping right (showing he likes a girl on Tinder) with lots of other potential dates. There is no way you are going to be able to pin this guy down, given his past behaviour with you.

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“As hard as it may be for you to accept it, I would try to forget about him and concentrate on finding a new Mr Right. You sound like a great catch with a fantastic ‘can-do’ attitude and lots of guys would love the idea of dating a singer - it is such a glamorous career and one that makes you very attractive to a lot of potential dates. Who wouldn’t want to date a woman with the talent and guts to perform in front of lots of other people? I am sure you will get snapped in no time by a guy who is a little more reliable than your previous date.”

Jessica is a sex and relationship expert for the dating site, 

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