Robert asks :
Hi Lucy,
There was this woman at a family wedding reception who was absolutely stunning. My parents pushed me to talk to her but I was embarrassed to as I am quite shy and many of her family members were sitting at the same table. I did want to talk to her, but before I could, she left. She was family to the bride and I was family to the groom and we rarely see each-other so I see my chances of meeting this girl again as very slim. I know she has a Facebook account but I would feel creepy contacting a girl that I haven't talked to. Should I wait to see if I ever see her again or shall I just go for it?
Hi Robert,
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If you know you won't be seeing this girl again soon, if you want to speak to her before the next family gathering you may have to make the first move here.
If you message her on Facebook as you friend request her and tell her who you are then she may not think it's creepy, she may just think you are trying to be friendly to the extended family. You could also be honest and tell her that you were about to go up and speak to her but she left before you could.
Perhaps if you are able to talk to her over Facebook, text message or even call her if she gives you her number it will take the pressure off a bit as her family won't be around like they were at the wedding.
If you don't contact her you may never know if anything could come of this, however if you do- at least you will know either way. If the family gatherings are infrequent- if it doesn't go to plan you don't have to see her very often afterwards.
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