Sarah asks :

Hi Lucy

Is masturbating bad? My friend’s being doing it all the time and she feels guilty afterwards. It's not going to damage her vagina or anything right? What should she do? She's been feeling horny all the time too.

Hi Sarah, thanks for getting in touch!

 My friend feels guilty after...

My friend feels guilty after...

Masturbation is a natural process so no, it’s not bad. Some people feel guilty because of their family and upbringing where sex is not discussed and therefore they feel like it’s wrong. It is often something that women do in private, so most people don’t know about it anyway. What they don’t know can’t hurt them if they disapprove of this means of exploring sexuality.

Masturbation is one of the best ways that you can have a successful sex life in future. If you know how to make yourself happy then you can tell your partner and have fulfilling sex with your man.

If she uses plenty of lube then there should be little damage done to the vagina. Often damage comes from too much friction when not using lube and the skin can become red and inflamed, however with copious amounts of lube this should not be problem.

If she is a virgin and has used a dildo or vibrator to masturbate with then she does run the risk of breaking her hymen- the muscular wall around the vagina- which can cause minimal bleeding.

As with all masturbation, she needs to make sure that she cleans herself afterwards, the natural lubricant that the a woman creates can sometimes be pushed into the urethra, sa it is shorter than in men,causing infections such as cystitis, so she needs to pee afterwards at the least to clear out the residual lube or natural fluids produced by her body.

In terms of how you do it, is different for every women. Some like to use an up and down motion between the clitoris and the g-spot and other prefer circular motions around the clitoris. It all depends on personal preference. Some women like to set the mood and light a few candles where others are happy doing it before bed. She might need visual stimulation like a magazine or porn or simply get herself off by fantasy. There is really no right way to do it as long as whatever way you choose gets you to orgasm its doesn’t really matter! 

Good luck,

Lucy x 


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