Anonymous asks:

I found out 3 weeks ago that my boyfriend has another girlfriend and he’s been seeing us both for the last 9 months! 

I feel so alone and silly for not seeing the signs. 

How can someone tell you they love you and also tell another woman the same? 

The other woman was the one who contacted me to let me know, he has tried to deny it and she has forgiven him! 

He has said some really awful things about me to the other woman and all of it is lies, I feel so low.


Its not clear from your message whether he began seeing you both at the same time, however it sounds to me like he may have been with the other woman first, and you have become the other woman without being aware.

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Agony Aunts on Female First

The fact he has chosen to deny his relationship with you, is no reflection on you, its simply his futile efforts to try and gain her forgiveness, and give her some confidence back, which has worked, as she clearly feels she doesn’t want to let him go. I suspect they already had problems in their relationship, and rather than work through them, he chose to fill the void with a relationship with you. I doubt they will go skipping off into the sunset after this, and more problems lay ahead.

My advice would be, step away from their drama, block them both from contacting you, and in future pay closer attention to a person's actions rather than words.

Siobhan Copland, Matchmaker, Relationship Coach

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