Julie asks :
Hi Lucy,
I went away to Thailand for a month. Two weeks in my boyfriend of two years slept with a girl three times on three different occasions and told everyone I was his ex. I found out once I was home and now he is begging me to take him back and says he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. Should I trust him and give him a chance?
Hi Julie,
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Was Thailand a one off? If not, then if you were to go away for another month could you trust him not to repeat this behaviour? Or if you were to stay in the country but have to stay away from home- what then?
Sleeping with someone else is one thing but then telling all your friends and family that you are his ex, was perhaps to justify cheating to everyone else. If you had not discussed breaking up before you left then it sounds like he might have been making excuses for his actions.
It was not just the once- but three times on three different occasions- which could suggest that he felt no guilt while in the act.
Maybe he realised his mistake afterwards and that is why he wants you back- however if he can't remain faithful for a few weeks- it begs the question can he remain faithful in the long term even if you don’t go abroad anymore?
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