Anonymous asks:

My best friend’s boyfriend has cheated on her and his best friend just told me.

He’s done things in the past but she always dismisses it because there’s no proof. 

I have proof now, but I don’t know how to approach the situation without getting the best friend in trouble. 

I’m only looking out for my best friend’s feelings - he’s got to go.


Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “You’re right: he’s got to go. But are you the one to make sure that he does go? I am not so sure. I am always a little wary of getting involved in other people’s relationships and passing on details of affairs. It could easily drive you and your best friend apart. She will blame you for breaking up her relationship when we both know you are just looking after your pal and will have done nothing wrong. It is far better for her to realise she is with a wrong ‘un and end the relationship herself.

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“It sounds like your best friend’s boyfriend is a serial cheat. This certainly doesn’t seem like the first time that he has cheated. Your best friend clearly suspects him but has given him the benefit of the doubt in the past. Like all cheats, I suspect the boyfriend is a liar and had denied being unfaithful to your best friend. It does sound like he is getting quite brazen in his cheating if his best mate is calling him out on it and telling you. It is only a matter of time before your best friend comes to her senses and either catches him cheating herself or finds out from someone else about his betrayal. Let her come to this conclusion on her own without intervening further.

“I would only intervene if your friend specifically asks you if he has been unfaithful and seeks out the proof which you have. Obviously come clean then and tell her what you know. Yes, his best mate will be upset but he must have known that there was a danger that you would break his confidence. Your best friend may be upset that you have not volunteered this information earlier but you can just say that you didn’t want to get involved in the relationship and you wanted her to find out for herself. 

“I suspect the rogue boyfriend knows that he is walking on a tightrope and will get caught out sooner or later. If his best friend is telling you about his cheating, I suspect he is also telling his mate that he is playing a dangerous game and he had better commit to your mate or split up with her so he can see other women without consequences.”

Jessica is a relationship expert for the dating site 

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