AJ asks :

Hi Lucy,

I was at a walk in contraception clinic which is also a sexual health clinic. When I was waiting- one of my boyfriend's married friends turned up. The only reason guys go there would be for sexual health testing. I don't know whether to tell my boyfriend; he is equally good friends with this guy's wife.

 

Hi AJ,

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Although it's easy to assume that he was going there for an STI test, this is something he might have contacted from his partner. Thrush can be passed between partners during sex so it could be that he was getting treatment for this if she had it first.

With that said- sexual health clinics also offer other services too.

He might have been getting some free condoms, or asking for advice and information about sexual health in general if the couple are having some physical, compatibility issues during sex.

Sexual Health clinics also offer advice and information on fertility problems if they are trying to conceive and so far it's not been successful.

If you want to tell your partner then you may want to in order to gauge his view on this, however it is all speculation as you don't know for sure why he was there.

It might be a sensitive topic that neither of them want to talk about if it's something that is affecting their enjoyment of their sex life or their ability to conceive. It might be something as simple as picking up some contraception because they've run out.

If you or your boyfriend tell his partner- you might create a lack of trust between them over something that was perfectly innocent.

Perhaps you could talk about it between yourselves but wait to be asked before you tell him or her what you saw. This is something that has the potential to break this couple up, so you may want to tread carefully here until you know the facts and take things from there


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