Anu asks :
Hi Lucy,
I’ve got a big problem. I am in my early 30s and I cannot stand my mother's nagging. I am working at home as an editor. She keeps asking me to do extra work at the house when she is around but I am already busy with my work. She doesn’t seem to understand. I am thinking of getting married to escape as I CANNOT stand her anymore. I’ve got an aunt who is helping me to meet guys. Please give me advice if you can.
Hi Anu,
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I would suggest thinking very carefully about marrying someone only to get away from your mother. Marriage should be about love and something you do when you're ready. If you enter into a marriage simply because you think it will improve your living conditions you might find that you're disappointed with the outcome.
If you are working- do you earn enough to house share or even get a place of your own? It might be time to look for your own space or for somewhere with your friends.
If you're not in a position to move out- perhaps you can come to some sort of agreement. You could suggest that during the hours you need to work- she leaves you to alone and outside of those hours you make yourself available to help her with whatever she needs. Could you tell her how it's impacting your concentration and productivity?
Could you leave the house to do your work? Could you go to the library or a coffee shop that has WI-FI and work from there instead? Could one of your friends let you use their house if they are at work during the day? Maybe you just need to find some other place as a base so she doesn't have the temptation to disturb you.
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