I think I'm in love with my close friend- what should I do?

30 March 2020

Anonymous asks:

I think I'm in love with one of my close friends.

I met her about six months ago but we've been spending more and more time together, and have been going on multiple coffee outings together every week that honestly feel a lot like dates.

I know she is bisexual, and she knows I am as well.

All the signals she's giving me suggest she could be interested, except she also keeps bringing up a man she's interested in and asking me to be her wingwoman to win him over.

How can I tell if she's actually interested in me or not?

I really don't want to ruin our friendship by making a move and her rejecting me.

You’ve known each other 6 months, so its still fairly early days in your friendship. If you feel in love with her now then you’ve had romantic feelings for her from the start, so the sooner you act on them the better, before you get permanently stuck in the ‘friend zone’.

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I suspect she may even be using this guy as bait to see how you’ll react, perhaps looking to see if it will make you jealous.

I would a) wait till she brings him up again, or b) raise it yourself.

The safest bet is via text to say something along the lines of...

‘I don’t fancy being your wing woman, I’m more interested in being your woman (winky face) and see what she says.

Either way best to know where you stand, if she says she doesn’t see you that way, you can always put it down to a tongue in cheek comment so you can continue with your friendship without it being awkward.