Hello, I don't know how to please my wife. What do women want?
Sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “Blimey, you are coming to me with this now? I say now because this woman is your ‘wife.’ I like to think you may have worked out how to please her before marrying her! I will give you the benefit of the doubt and assume that you previously had done things which pleased your wife, and your circumstances have changed more recently. Well, you need to look at those circumstances in more detail and find out why you are no longer pleasing your wife and how you can put it right? It would be interesting to know if your problems are physical or emotional or, as I suspect, a combination of the two.
“With sex, women are looking for men who are unselfish in bed and put the needs of their partner first. That means, making sure that she is satisfied when you make love and experiences an orgasm (I am figuring that you always do).
“As for her emotional needs, I don’t doubt that you have repeatedly asked her what is wrong. I suspect that the answer to this question is you, and your wife is not telling you the answer that is staring you both in the face. For whatever reason, she doesn’t want to face up to the crisis in your relationship and is simply refusing to communicate properly with you. Until she does, it is difficult to get to the real root of your problems. My guess is that your wife is depressed and is finding it difficult to articulate her feelings as a result. See if you can get her to open up and be honest with you about this crisis and if there is anything you can do to make it better. Without some movement from her, you are going to be locked in this impasse and there is no way out of this mess.”
Jessica is a sex and relationship expert for the dating site, IllicitEncounters.com
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