Dilemma girl asks :

Hey there Lucy,

I am a 20 year old girl with dilemma going on right now. I had a crazy crush on a boy during my childhood but I quit, thinking it was one sided. But today he comes to me and says he’s had the same feelings for me since his childhood and still loves me. 

I am not certain about my feelings. Should I accept him or reject? I am pessimistic about the future. I am afraid whether my family are going to accept this or not. But I also don’t want hurt him by rejecting him. What shall I do? Could you please help me out?

 

 

Hi Dilemma Girl,

Agony Aunts on Female First

Agony Aunts on Female First

If you have moved on and no longer find him attractive or feel a connection then it might be kinder to tell him that you want to stay as friends. Better to tell him now than after a few dates if you've felt nothing for him since getting over him.

If you are not sure about how you feel, then you could go on a few dates and just see how it goes. There might be something there and there might not- it may be worth finding out so at least you know either way. You've both liked each other at different points, however dating is a different experience than admiring someone from afar.

If the only reason you are not going to date him is because of your family- why not talk to them? It is your life and your decision however it always helps to have those closest to you on board. If they love you, their thoughts should be in your best interests.

What is it that you they wouldn't approve of? They might be more welcoming of this than you assume. And if not- at least you know where they stand. It could make things harder but not impossible to date him if that is what you really want.


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