Amy asks :

Hi Lucy,

I met this Scorpio male few months back at work. We aren't friends but he always made me feel that he is interested in me (by the way he looks at me, attention and trying to communicate with me). On the other hand I tried to avoid him as much as possible because he is married and somewhere I felt that if get close to him or even be friendly with him, we might click as he has the ability to stimulate me mentally which is the important thing I look for in a partner being a Gemini. Recently we happened to be together in an office party. We talked a lot and he made me drink as he knew, that was the only way to get me talk (I am an introvert). We made out but did not have sex (he wanted to but did not because I did not agree). Now I am finding it hard to get him out my head. I really enjoyed whatever we did though I did not show much interest. I am so very drawn to him that he is all I think about now. I want to tell him how I feel but somewhere I am scared if he is only playing with me and this is just a game for him or maybe he just wanted to get physical. I am so confused. No man has ever made me feel the way he did. I want him more than anything now but at the same time I don’t want to make a fool of myself or get hurt as I know it will be a bit difficult for me to forget and move on.

Our Reply

Hi Amy, thanks for getting in touch.

If he is married, it may be best to stay away from this one. Perhaps things are stale in his marriage and he wants a bit of fun to detract from that. He has more to lose if his partner finds out than you do, but you also run the risk of getting hurt.

You have the opportunity to stop this before you let yourself get any further into anything, so perhaps you should take it to protect yourself.

There is a chance that it could be the fact that he is married that is the attraction. He is a challenge. You both have a connection, but have not slept together or been out on a date, you don’t know if this could be sustained. It might just be that you both get on well with one another.

If he wanted to be single then he could leave his wife, but there are no indicators that this might happen. He might want both, which puts you in an awkward position.

I would suggest maybe trying to focus your attention elsewhere and look for someone who doesn’t have the baggage he does. If he becomes single then this might be something to explore, but waiting of his to happen or not will only make you fall harder for him, especially if he keeps paying you attention.

It could be that you have not had attention from a man in a while and he is the first to show you some, in which case you are naturally drawn to him because he makes you feel attractive and wanted.

Think about what you want from this, if you want sex then this is perhaps something you could explore, however if after only a kiss you think that you will fall for him then this could be warning sign that you should stay away.

Good luck,

Lucy x  


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