Jade asks :
hi i was wondering. every time i play with myself i barely get any pleasure and im just wondering why?
If you are new to masturbation then it always takes time to get right. There are several things you can do to help this. Lubrication is key to getting yourself in the mood; it prevents you getting sore after long stints of masturbating and can also enhance the sensation, particularly if you get something like Tingle Intimate Lube from Durex.
What am I doing wrong?
Take the time out to make an effort, you need to find yourself attractive to be able to feel sexy, which will get you in the mood. Try lighting candles, wearing some lacy lingerie and setting aside some time for it, rather than it being a last resort before bed in your pjs. Men like visual stimulation and women are no different, if you look down and see a beautiful woman dressed in sexy lingerie pleasuring herself it is going to be far more stimulating than shoving your hand down your granny pants underneath your onesie!
Toys are good for that alone time, you could try a beginner’s dildo or vibrator to get you going, this may work better for you than just using your fingers. Why not try Beginner's Basic Lady Lust Finder Vibrator by Lovehoney? A vibrator is much safer if you are still a virgin as you can use the vibrations to get you off, however be careful if inserting inside you as this could break or tear your hymen so don't force it, or you may end up bleeding and in pain.
Some women like an up and down motion on their clitoris which will caress both this and your g spot, however others enjoy a circular motion on their clitoris, so experiment with different directions to see which you like best!
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