There's something about well written words that can make even the coldest hearted of people swoon with pure admiration.

Do you know how to do it well?

Do you know how to do it well?

When William Shakespeare wrote his infamous Sonnet 18, he did it with the intention of wooing the woman of his dreams. Now, I'm not suggesting everyone should write an ode to their love interest (although such a grand gesture would be very much appreciated) but something has to be said for the power of words.

A slightly more subtle way to let someone know you're interested without needing your own book of poetry, is through the art of the naughty text message, with the advent of apps such as Whatsapp and Snapchat proving that most people prefer non-verbal communication.

The basic idea behind text sex is to send a message between phones which shares your dirtiest and sexiest thoughts with someone else. It's something that can be used to spice up a long-term relationship, or to simply let a new admirer know that you're interested.

Whilst a text message might seem a little impersonal, it does allow you to be more open than you perhaps would in a face to face situation. It can be quite tricky to say to your partner of several years how you'd like to dress up as a nurse and have them play your patient.

The text message eliminates that embarrassment factor and can often lead to a whole new level of openness you may not have experienced before.

How Not To Do It

We've all been there- it's 3am, you're drunk, you're horny and you decide to send a text message telling your current love interest exactly what you want to do to them... but instead of sending it to "Dan" you end up sending it to "Dad".

This will not give you the desired results you were looking for and will instead end in a lot of awkward glances next time you're over for Sunday lunch.

What's even worse than sending it to the wrong person, is sending it to the right person but sending a text which doesn't make any sense. Only too recently, I have spent a good 30 minutes trying to work out why a man wants to "Dual my aunt and kick my puppy" (damn that Autocorrect).

Neither of these bode well for a good introduction to text sex, so bearing this in mind, let's figure out how to do it right

How To Do It Well

The first thing to remember is to go with what you know - sending a text message that sounds unrealistic will be a turn-off (think fake moans and groans like in bad pornography) so stick with what you're comfortable with to start off.

Don't think that you have to be explicit or crude in your messages. In fact, the sexiest texts are often the ones that leave them guessing what you're up to.

Try and be confident with what you send. If there's something that you want to try or a fantasy you want to fulfil, a text may be the best way to tell your partner so be confident in your abilities as a text-sex kitten and let 'em know!

Don't forget to add the details: seeing as your partner can't be with you at that precise time, you'll want to be as descriptive as possible to fire up their imagination! Let them know what perfume you're wearing, what colour lingerie, where you are in the house…

A compliment goes a long way - telling your partner via text how incredible they are is sure to brighten up their day and make the texts flow more smoothly.

Don't T.U.I. (Text Under the Influence) - you don't want to regret what you say the next day, so stay away from the wine before you pick up your phone.

Don't use text speak or emojis - it's distracting. There's no need for that pesky aubergine here.

Most importantly of all, have fun with it - If you're enjoying it then the other person probably is too. Text sex should be fun, spontaneous and naughty!

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