By Rex Wood, author of Sexcellence: The Spreadsheet
For more than a decade, author and serial dater Rex Wood has maintained a ‘sex spreadsheet’ for logging his sexual encounters.
From his first fumbles to seasoned seductions, Rex has used his sex spreadsheet to dutifully record and analyse information including names, dates and locations, first impressions and his final assessments – all with the aim of improving his pulling power.
Rex has been on over 500 dates and has slept with over 100 of them. He has just released his sex autobiography Sexcellence: The Sex Spreadsheet, packed full of advice on how to follow in his footsteps. Here he lists his top 10 reasons to keep a sex spreadsheet.
IT SPURRED ME ON
Having a permanent record boosted my ego and confidence. As the spreadsheet grew, I was always excited about further populating it. This meant me going out on dates and always striving to improve upon the dating skills I was acquiring.
SOME TRENDS DON’T HAVE ANY DEEPER MEANING
I learned that trends trigger bias and don’t always work. For example, there are five Emmas on the spreadsheet and this automatically made me feel that I was more likely to get with girls called Emma. It didn't work and snapped me out of this incorrect assumption.
WOMEN HAVE DIFFERENT PRIORITIES AT DIFFERENT AGES
I was able to conclude from the spreadsheet that women have different priorities depending on their age. Those aged between 18 and 24 were mostly interested in going out and having fun, and were harder to connect with. Once they hit 25 however, generally they become more interested in having a partner and will assess you based on that criterion. For example, my girlfriend ‘Bella’ wouldn’t have anything to do with me when we first met and she was 23. It was only when she turned 26, and was looking for a boyfriend, that I was able to finally secure a second date.
I LEARNED MORE ABOUT MYSELF
A spreadsheet helped me find out what types of person I was attracted to and whom I attracted the most. It seemed I was more attracted to brunettes than blondes, while my favourite nationalities were English, Irish and American. These are interesting things most people don't get to look at over the course of their sexual lives.
IDENTIFYING THE HOT SPOTS
Thanks to a spreadsheet, I was able to identify the most successful spots and holiday destinations to meet women. I have travelled the world, but the best hotspots for hooking up are Marbella and Las Vegas.
HAVE FUN IN THE SUN
I discovered that dating and sex has a seasonal element to it. I learned that the best months for me, when I was single, were the summer months, particularly in July and August. This is useful to know as you can save money by going out much less in the winter and focusing on the summer.
FINDING THE PERFECT WINGMEN
I was able to identify who worked best as a wingman – a friend who will back you up when approaching a potential partner. It would have been tough to name the efficient wingmen from my long list of friends without the spreadsheet, but thanks to keeping a record I was able to sort the good from the bad, and call upon their support on a night out.
TRACKING MY PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT
As I’ve got older and more comfortable, I’ve cultivated a better taste in potential partners, as my spreadsheet makes clear. Those early rows reflect my inexperience and, being frank, my desperation at the time! Now I’m in a committed relationship with Bella, and I can honestly say she’s the most beautiful woman I have ever seen. Keeping the spreadsheet reminds me how far I have come over the years.
A spreadsheet might not seem the most personal of mementos, but it helps me to recall all the women I’ve been with. Sometimes I think of every single name on there and I wonder how they remember me, if at all, and where they have ended up in their lives. Some memories bring a smile to my face; others, I realise that I could have handled things in a better way and I learn from that.
Sexcellence: The Sex Spreadsheet by Rex Wood is out now, available from Amazon priced £7.99 in Kindle edition and £10.80 in paperback. Visit www.sexcellence.life