Lube is the unsung hero of sex. From easing uncomfortable friction, to rescuing you when a condom dries up, there's no limit to what it can add to sex. And nope, you do not need to be post-menopausal to worship at the KY altar — lube is for literally everyone. And there are tons of ways to use it. Here are six tips on how lube can enhance masturbation from Lovehoney sex and relationship expert Annabelle Knight.

Annabelle Knight

Annabelle Knight

There’s this myth flying around that if the woman needs lube because she isn’t getting wet, then something is wrong with her, but nothing could be further from the truth. Dryness is just a natural thing that happens with age, at certain times of the month, because of certain medications, or even stress. Of course, lube is essential if dryness is an issue, but there’s nothing wrong with it, so let’s drop the stigma. 

For anyone who suffers from sensitive skin, lube helps to reduce friction so you can focus on what feels good. It’s the miracle sex essential that everyone should be using.

Though lubrication can be made from water, oil, petroleum, or silicone,water-based lube is usually your best bet: it's safe to use with condoms, and it's easily washed away for a simple clean-up. If you're prone to yeast infections, use a water-based product made without glycerin (sugars found in glycerin feed yeast, causing it to multiply).

Even at room temperature in a warm and cosy bedroom, lube can be cold. Rather than just squirting it straight on to the required area (which will probably be a bit of a shock) it’s best to squeeze some on to your hands first.

Start with a small amount on your fingers and apply where it’s needed, adding as much as you like. To bring it up to body temperature, rub it between your hands for a bit of heat before you get down to it.Applying lube isn’t just a one-time thing, either. Reapply as you go along to keep things running nice and smoothly. When you’re with a partner instead of flying solo, it doesn’t need to be an interruption – work it into foreplay for a seamless sexual experience.

If you’re using lube to masturbate, apply a couple of drops to your fingers and slowly massage it into the clitoris and labia. It’ll heighten sensitivity straight away, and you’ll definitely notice the difference. If you’ve chosen to test drive a tingling or warming variety, it’ll send sensations throughout your body, too.

Want to hit the G-spot? Apply a little more lube to your fingers and use it to stimulate the area for a more intense feeling.

Use it when you masturbate with a vibrator. Imagine the electrifying pulse of your favorite vibrator hitting all the right spots. Now imagine using that same toy to gently glide over your clitoris with the same power, but a totally different, more fluid sensation. A dab of lube on a vibrator is a total game-changer. Just be careful: If your sex toy is made of silicone, you'll definitely want to use a water-based lube, since silicone lubes can deteriorate soft rubber.

Different types of lube to choose -

Water-based lube

Water-based lubricant is one of the most popular on the market, probably because of its many benefits. It won’t damage your toys, it doesn’t stain your bedsheets and can be used safely with condoms. On the downside, water-based lube is absorbed quickly into the skin, making it not ideal for long sessions unless you’re OK with re-applying regularly.

BEST FOR: Vaginal sex, oral sex, sex toys, male masturbation.

Silicone-based lube

Probably the second most popular lube on the market, silicone lube combines the best of both worlds. It has the smooth and easy ride of water-based with the highly arousing texture of oil. It’s a little more expensive than its water-based sibling, but it lasts a lot longer, so you don’t have to apply as regularly or use as much. Did you know it’s waterproof too? Another excuse to hop in the shower together.

While silicone-based lube won’t break condoms, it can damage your sex toys if they’re made of silicone. Stick to water-based if you’re playing with a battery-operated friend.

BEST FOR: Vaginal sex, anal sex.

DON’T USE IT WITH: Any sex toy (male or female) that is made with real-feel materials or silicone.